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                                         this year 2010 is not just an ordinary year, it is a year of diversities of great achievements. those dreams  of ours we set out to reach last year but couldn't,  this year those dreams will come to fruition. these days things are really tough all over the globe, the cost of living is skyrocketing each day, so many people can barely feed one square meal a day, people are dying, loved ones missing, especially in HAITI, that was hit by a natural disaster.

                                         in all these we can still be sure to survive, in the midst of starvation, in the midst of lack, in the midst of homelessness, in the midst of terrible pains & sorrows, in the midst of all kinds of diseaster, we can still survive, we can still lift up our heads & shout alleluia. for those of us who can afford to donate something to HAITI the victim of this new year 2010 diseaster should please try & donate towards their upkeep & welfare.

                                   whatever bad condition we could be going through at the moment, we should remember that tough times don't last but tough people do & i believe that this year is a good year & we can achieve our targeted dreams this 2010 & no body, no demon can stop that. for those haitians who are passing through a trying period presently, my heart reaches out to you. be rest assured that the lord will surely see you through & greatly too, different continents have united through this, to lend a helping hand.

                             the world is so scary, but we are assured of the protective shield of the most HIGH, all around us. may the good lord keep us, protect us & guard us through out our earthly journey in this world, AMEN!  

                           christmas is here again! merry christmas to all of you tansalites, as we celebrate let's merry & rejoice at the birth of our savour jesus christ, this is a time to reflect & make an impact positively  to the society which has given so much to some people & given so little to some less priviledged ones.  


                  for those that have been given so much by nature, they should remain grateful & remember those that are less priviledged, for those who are deppressed & are so down troddened, they should always look up to God hopefully for a better day. to all tansalites, to all nigerians in diaspora & those at home, let's try to put a smile on the faces of any lonely soul we are fortunate to come across.


                                                       merry christmas once again to  
                                                     you all & have a great year ahead!

                                             As our names differ so also do we have different destinies, even identical twins are not ruled out either, one of them could prosper more than the other, i have seen a set of twins, where the second made it big in life, the first could barely feed himself not to talk of feeding his immediate  family. nnenna had four sisters & a brother, she was the first girl, but her two younger sisters got married before her to rich men who helped the family financially. nnenna's immediate younger sister nkori whose husband was richer  set up a well stocked mini-mart for their mother & opened an electrical shop for their father.

                                                  nnenna was in a nursing school in her second year when she was called &  told that  her third sister who just finished her high school a year ago  had been spoken for & preparations were already in top gear for the forthcoming wedding, nnenna was moved to tears because her  younger sisters were getting married before her, though she was happy it was  good for the family but she was afraid of the tauntings of her mother, ever since her two younger sisters got married her mother had not let her be for a minute, each morning she would be greeted with the fact that her younger ones have gone to their husbands'  houses while she's still under her parents roof still eating their food.

                                                     she was a bit relieved when she got admission into the nursing school & left home temporally,  whenever nnenna was on holiday she would not go home she would hang around her friends homes, afraid to go home, dreading her mother's acidic tonque & ashamed to be the topic of discussion amongst the village gossips. she felt ashamed of herself, that her two younger sisters are married & now the third sister is about getting married while she, nnenna, the eldest is still single with not even a contending suitor. every night she would wet her pillow with tears begging God to give her a husband if not for anything else but to remove shame from her face.

                                                five years later, nnenna's kid sistter who was 22 years old & the last girl in the family got married & nnenna remained the only girl in the house, her four sisters haven gottten married with kids & living with their husbands. at this time nnenna was in her mid thirties & a mid-wife with a goverment hospital in her home town. she had become her mother's carricature, no day passes without her mother mocking her & calling her old cargo, clapping her hands in mockery to her face, telling her to go & marry, singing degrading songs in taunt against her.

                                        unable to take all the insults & heartrending words from her mother,  she decided to leave her home town & relocate to a city, but when she told her parents about her plan, her mother refused & started raining abuses on her telling her that she is the one that wants to bring shame to the family by refusing to go & get married like her younger sisters, eventually nnenna had her way & left her hometown for the city.

                                           nnenna felt bored that evening in her new house in the city & decided to take a stroll to relieve her mind, she had walked for about 20 minutes when  she noticed a car trailing her behind, she stopped for a while then continued after a few minutes, the car drove up to her & stopped besides her but she ignored it continuing with her walk, the driver of the car parked & came out, walked up to her, chatting her up, nnenna walked on & the stranger joined her, introducing himself.

                                          
                                           it turned out that mr godson a nigerian based in canada, who came home for the festive period & celebrations was just driving leisurely that evening when he sighted nnenna & liked her back profile, decided to chat her up. mr godson fell in love deeply with nnenna & proposed marriage to her two months after they met. they met their different families & wedding date was fixed, they eventually got married. three months later, nnenna joined her husband mr godson in canada, a happy & contented expecting mother.

                                                             
                                           this is for all those sisters who really desire to get married & who have been mocked because they have reached that peak in life & have no man in their lives yet to call a husband & it bothers them greatly, don't worry, this is your year, this christmas many ladies will get married, alot of tansalite babes, will get married to the men their heart desire who will appreciate & love them, this christmas. merry christmas to you all.



                                            

                                                    
                                                                                                       

                                                   maturity is not how old one is but how sensible & reasonable one can be in any situation or any circumstances one  finds oneself. there are situations that come our way, which we are supposed to handle logically but because of  lack of maturity we blow it up & then hide our faces in shame. the capability to handle situations with atmost clarity & non-biased method is a great ability indeed.

                                                  nikky is a beautiful lady in her early twenties, a graduate of economics working with a travel agency, she opted to stay on her own so she left her parents' home & rented a beautiful apartment in a high brow viccinity, she could afford it because she was well paid. she had a neighbour, who was a handsome bachelor, she didn't take notice of him till she had been there for  three  months. one day she came back early from work & as she was struggling with the groceries she bought on her way home trying to open her door, the neigbour came to her assistance.

                                                 from that day onwards nikky & her male neighbour mr richards became acquanted. nikky had a fiance who was based in abuja while she worked in lagos, though the plan was that after their marriage she would relocate to abuja to be with him. mr richards her neighbour was a great womaniser, he had all kinds of ladies coming to  visit him, most often the neighbours are disturbed by ladies shouting & fighting themselves over mr richards in his apartment, the sounds of breaking glasses & items are heard in such cases.   he was indeed a known incurable womaniser & he was aware & so proud of it.

                                                 nikky kept to her own most times, when she comes back from work early she rents some movies to keep her busy, her fiance comes every forthnight to be with her & she goes to abuja to visit when she finds time off work. mr richards her neighbour took interest in her & started woeing her, she told him she was already engaged, but he persisted, she told him she could not cheat on her fiance, mr richards couldn't accept NO & kept pestering her, hoping she would succumb to his advances, but she stood her ground.  

                                                          mr richards could not take the fact that a handsome man like him could be rejected by a woman, he was  too proud to accept a no from a woman. when he realised that she truly meant her no, he decided to plot some evil against her for rejecting his advances. he had taken note of when nikky's fiance comes to visit, so he mapped out a plan & decided to hatch it on that day just to pay nikky back for rejecting him.

                                          nikky took time taking  her bath that very day, because she was expecting her love to arrive soon, she put on a sweet fragrance & wore a sexy dress, waiting for her love to knock on the door at any moment soon, she heard the car horn & peeped outside the window, her fiance had arrived, she smiled & went back to her sit, a little over 2 minutes, she heard a tap & she flew to the door, opened it & without looking jumped into the arms of the outstretched hands.

                                           immediately, she heard a weak groan over her head & she looked up & saw her fiance, standing aside, flabbagastedly she looked at the person she was holding & it was mr richards her neighbour, she put down her hands suddenly, like she just realised she was holding onto something very hot, confusion was written all over her face, her fiance looking so pained & hurt walked away, then mr richards with a wicked grin on his face went back into his apartment.
                
                                              nikky ran after her man, she tried to hold his hand to prevent him from walking away, but he removed her hand from his body & went into the car, nikky tried to voice out inaudibly, ''please my love it's not what you think''. he zoomed off, nikky went back into her apartment & cried her heart out. she kept calling his cell number, but he wouldn't pick up the call. at a time the phone was switched off completely. she went through that weekend in a foul mood, on monday the next day at work she took permission for a sick leave & travelled to abuja two days later.

                                           her fiance didn't give her the privilege to explain what actually transpired between she & her neighbour, he didn't talk to her, he left her alone in the house & went off to God knows where, for the three days nikky spent in abuja he didn't sleep in his house. even at his office he instructed the security operative not to allow her into the premises. on the forth morning she went back to her base. her fiance never forgave her for a deed she didn't know how it was commited & she developed a strong hatred towards men. 

                                         mr richards eventually packed out of that place, his conscience had been tormenting him so much & he started experiencing some hiccups in his business, he tried to apologize to nikky, but each time, he couldn't muster the courage to apologize, especially when he sees that hatred on her face, he just looks away & staggers off.

                                          we should try to accept it when someone says they don't want us in all sincerity, it's hurting but we can't enforce everyone to like us. when what we desire from someone is been rejected by that person, we should be matured about it & not allow it to over cloud our emotions & plotting  the down fall of the person involved. we can never gain any thing positive by pulling other people down by our actions, verbal or deed, instead we belittle ourselves, showing the world how immature, little minded & uncivilized we are. we should all learn to accept a NO in situations like this, especially in relationships, when it is obvious the other party truly wants to be left alone, respect her wish & let her be. don't cause any harm whatsoever.   

                                                  

                                              i went with a friend to visit the old peoples' home last week & we were opportuned to meet one of the aged occupants of the home.  an old woman of 96 years old called granny catherine. we chatted with her & she was so lively & at the same time so lonely, she showed us her pictures, the ones she took when she was young & the ones she took in her middle &  old age, she was such a lovely woman, so beautiful as a young girl & she narrated her life story to our curious & anxious ears.

                                              granny catherine  grew up in the sourthern part of nigeria, she & her husband  maxwell  were living in the northern part of nigeria with their 4 boys before the nigerian civil war broke out, her husband was enlisted among the soldiers that fought during the civil war, amidst pleas & tears her husband was torn away from her & the children, the war was so fierce that family members were torn away from each other, everything was in disarray, the whole nation was scattered & torn apart, people were running helter skelter, wives were hiding their husbands to prevent them from been sent to the war front.

                                         granny catherine fought hard too to prevent the government from taking her grown sons away from her like they took her husband, she hid her sons every day in the house, when the war got fiercier & houses were being burnt every day she decided to run away from the city with her children to her husband's home town in the east  for safety.  there was no vehicle those days for long distance journey like it is nowadays, so they had to trek, when it's night fall, they rested in a place & continued the journey the next day. these went on for days & turned into weeks, when they got closer to the middle belt they were accosted by some uniformed men who held them hostage for some days & later released her with only the two smaller kids & told her that they will need the services of the two grown boys that they will stay with them to fight for their nation.

                                          amidst tears & entreaties she pleaded but her pleas were not accepted,  she left her two sons in the hands of the soldiers, she continued on  her journey with the other two kids, along the way the youngest took ill because of malnutrition & lack of good sleep for months, eventually the child died before they could get to their destination.  she & her only surviving child later took shelter in a nearby village after treking for many weeks. the war was still raging on,  every village in nigeria at that time, experienced the effect of that singular diseaster.

                                           granny catherine later lost the only child she had with her & she never saw her husband nor her sons again. after the war she tried to locate her husband's village but she couldn't because everywhere has been burnt, houses have been destroyed, there were just heaps & heaps of debris & ashes. she went back to her former base & tried every thing in her power to see if she could re-unite with her surviving family members but she never was ever able to re-unite with them again. she decided to start life afresh, she was 57  years old at that time.

                                               she never re-married, the memories of the war still lingers on, she became unstable, some times losing her memories & acting strangely, she was psychologically disturbed, when she got older some one brought her to the old people's home, because she didn't have anyone to take care of her outside & she has been staying there for some years now. 

                                          that's the story of granny catherine, the diseatrous effect of the nigerian civil war still lives with some people, many died then & many are still living with the negative effects in their lives. many of us here in tansali have not been born then, we may not know what the effects of that particular war have caused some people but am sure that by the history we read & heard of, it was really a devastating, diseatrous & dangerous terrain to have been trailed. 

                                     to all those who passed through the effects of the nigerian civil war, the ikeja, lagos state bomb blast & all kinds of natural diseasters that have ever happened in any continent, words are not enough to express how deeply compassionate i feel towards all the victims of these kinds of calamity, but i share your pains & miseries, & i pray the lord gives you the heart to get over this & move on again. 

                                     to granny catherine, i owe you a constant visit to the old peoples' home & i cherish those beautiful toothy smiles you gave me when i hugged you & kissed your beautiful face with those gracious old age wrinkles. the sun shall always shine.                    

                                                  there are lots of issues which have to do with women & children, when it comes to ill-treatment, battery, abuse, enslavery & de-humanisation. it is not  that some men do not suffer some of these but in the society which i am ( NIGERIA),  women are mostly relegated to the back sit, most times they are subjected to all kinds of dehumanizing conditions. that's why the likes of Stella damascus, Kate henshew-Nuttall & the rest are fighting for the cause of women.

                                                      mrs nkwuocha, is  a mother of four kids, she works with an advertising firm, she foots the bill of the family, her husband having lost his job five years ago, refused to find another job, his wife, mrs nkwuocha has gotten him three different jobs in the past but each time he refuses to accept it & gives one flimsy excuse or the other, he doesn't want to work & depends heavily on his wife's salary, waiting for the month end, when he will demand some money from the wife, some occasions when the wife doesn't give in to his demands, he beats her to a pulp.

                                                          on many occasions mrs nkwuocha has been rushed to the hospital after he had beaten her to the  point of death & this has been going on for over four years, her children have all gotten used to their father's brutal battery of their mother & they only cringe at their father's presence, crying, each time he batters their mother, what could they do, their ages are between four & ten. mrs nkwuocha's brothers had intervened in the past but when their sister refused to seek for a divorce from her husband, they left her & went their way.  mrs nkwuocha had said she could not leave her kids because her husband had warned her that if she wanted to leave she could go but not with any of his kids or he would trace her wherever she could be & cut her into pieces. mrs nkwuocha  has become her husband's punching bag & she had stayed, enduring all the abuse.

                                                      Hauwa is from the northern part of  nigeria, she was  abandoned by her husband when she gave birth to their first child  & developed vesico-vaginal fistula ( vvf).  hauwa  got married  before she was 15 years old  &  gave birth when she was not fully developed to carry a child in her under-developed womb, this resulted to vesico-vaginal fistula syndrome,  this is an abnormal fistulous tract extending between the bladder & the vagina, that allows the continous involuntary discharge of urine into the vaginal vault & which has a profound emotional effect on the patient. hauwa releases urine uncontrollably, which gives  her surroundings an  unpleasant odour, her husband that put her in that condition couldn't stand the constant unpleasant odour in his surrounding,  packed his bag one day & left hauwa to her plight. 

                                                    mrs dopemu has been married for the past three years with two kids for her husband, though she has a wealthy husband, she doesn't have peace in her marriage. it started few months after her wedding, her husband had come home one night from work with a very pretty lady whom he introduced casually to the wife & informed her that she should make up the guest room & sleep there that he would use their matrimonial bedroom with his guest for the night, mrs dopemu thought her husband was drunk but eventually she realised he was dead serious, she slept in the guest room, leaving her husband & the stranger to sleep in her matrimonial bed.

                                                  her husband, mr dopemu brings his girl friends to their matrimonial home  & anytime he comes home with any of his girl friend, she will sleep in the guest room  leaving her matrimonial bed for her husband & his guest. the day she tried to talk to the husband about this issue, he shouted down on her & told her she should thank God that he only brings them to sleep over & go the next day, that he could decide as well to marry any of them but he prefers the present arrangement & that she should take it that way or go back to her poverty stricken family, mrs dopemu though does not wish for this she has been coping just to remain married to her husband.

                                                          you may think this is a made up story but i stand to let you know that some women are trully passing through these conditions & it is an everyday occurance. the only advice i'd give to these women is that, any thing that causes you anguise & misery, no matter what that thing is, it's not worth risking your health & life for, please  find the courage to pull out & start life again, it's never too late.
                                                            

                                        

                                                   

                                                                

                                                    cordellia had always dreaded going to bed in the night, any time her master, mr agu was in town. in such occasions she stayed awake praying he didn't come into her room that night to pester her for sex, as he usually did  & cordellia could not muster enough courage to tell her madam, mrs agu on what her husband did to her almost every night, whenever he was in town. 

                                                   cordellia was a girl of 12, who had  a body of a 16 year old, she had a rapid growth. her madam, mrs agu had brought her from the village when she travelled to her home town to source for a house-help, she saw her & took to her immediately. cordellia was a good domestic help, she carried out her chores without any grudges, the agu family  liked & accommodated her,  her madam got her enrolled in a private  school close to their house & treated her like her own child.

                                                           the first night her master came into her room in the night, she was already asleep, she felt a hand on her laps, she jerked up startled & had her mouth covered by her master, who forcefully raped her that night & afterwards warned her not to say a word of what happened to anybody & promised her, he would  always buy biscuites & chocolates  for her, he helped cordellia clean up that night & this continued every other night  & this turned cordellia into a frightened & disturbed child. mrs agu was good to cordellia, but  she never imagined that her husband could descend so low to sleep with a child, as young as cordellia & she didn't pay attention to those visible signs which cordellia exibited.

                                                                ifeoma, is another case of an abused person, she had been at home jobless for almost 5 years after graduation, so you can imagine how she felt, when she was called up to resume official duty with a large conglomerate which dealt with oil & gas, she was over the moon with joy. the second day at work, when she was about rounding up for the day, her manager called her into his office & told her to still stay behind at her desk that he needed her to do some urgent posting on the computer, when he was through with his guest who was in his office then.

                                                                the manager allowed time to pass even when his guest had left, when every one in the office had gone, he called ifeoma to his office, as she stood to take down any note the manager might want her to take down, he told her to sit down & as she was about to sit, he told her to come over to where he was sitted & sit on his laps,  ifeoma was surprised, how could he ask that of her? she fidgetted but the manager still insisted, she still stood her ground, the manager got up & within some seconds, grabbed her & tried to forcefully kiss her, she slapped him hard on the right cheek & rushed out of his office, grabbed her bag & ran out of the building.

                                                                   ifeoma was given a two weeks suspension from work for insurbodination & she almost lost her job. she was adviced by her colleagues to agree to the manager's request, if she wanted to keep her job & that he did same to every lady, both married & single, that was under the employ of that great conglomerate. eventually ifeoma had to play ball, just to keep her job, any time the manager wanted her she would grudgingly go to him. though it gives her the shivers & it's eating her up gradually, but she has no one to run to for help & she doesn't want to lose her job. 

                                                            some people think because they are in authority & have the power, they can treat people anyhow they liked.they forget that what goes around comes around. hope we all know that the law of karma would definitely carry out it's cause. every wrong we do to any human being unjustified would be redressed by nature, sooner than we expect. if you are in a place of authority don't take it for granted treating  your staff or those under you without respect. everybody deserves respect, you earn respect by first respecting yourself & giving those under you the respect due them. 

                                                      you that you are in a place of authority please take caution! don't abuse that girl because you have the power & think you can do so & that nobody would question you. stop!!  think twice, have a heart, don't cause that soul a tear of sorrow, please have a heart. a word is enough for the wise. 

    

                                                                   

                                                    i've been reading different negative publications about this sex symbol, mercy johnson & am pissed by the things people say about her & what they call her. most times people point accusing fingers on their fellow individual as if they have the right to do so. those people pointing accusing fingers & saying negative things about their fellow beings are they any better? who has the right to condemn another?

                                                     most people don't really know mercy johnson & they judge her by what they see her act in most of her movies,  mercy is an angel! am sure most people don't know that for the past 5 years she has been paying the school fees of  a good number of  students' in her home town, she has been responsible for the welfare of some indigenous children who have no one to train them. she has been donating writing materials & text books to some schools to help the less priviledged, presently she is training about 500 students in her home town in different  schools.

                                                     recently she donated some high quality materials to some schools & orphanage homes. mercy is an angel, she has a heart of gold, at her very  young age she has done so much for charity & deserves to be  praised. how come her critics can not say anything about her charity deeds but to tarnish her image? who is that person that is perfect? mercy is a young girl she is just like every other average nigerian girl, she could have her excesses some times just like every one of us, she's no exception.i have my excesses as a human being, so also other girls.

                                                   people should put a stop to the name callings, negative publications  & bad representations of our very  own diva, i don't think there is any actress her age who has done that much for the less priviledged & kept a sealed lips about her charity works. she's not what the press portray her to be, she's a great girl with a beautiful heart & we should all appreciate her greatly, let's not drive her to her taciturns by the negative way most of us judge her, i admire her charity deeds, her great acting prowess & her ability to cry easily when she's acting. 

                                                           mercy if you get to read this i want you to know that i love you & appreciate your works both your career & charity. just keep a focused out look & don't be moved by what people say about you, you own your life as long as you are not stepping on any one's toes to be happy, you owe no one any apology for the way you decide to live your life. most people don't appreciate good things, the late micheal jackson donated most of his concert & show proceeds to charity yet no one talked about that, they only talked about his skin discolouration & the different surgeries he had & different accusations of paedophilius acts, they made him so miserable, that he sang people should leave him alone, eventually they drove him to his death.

                                                               people should leave mercy johnson alone to live her life & we should appreciate  & encourage her.

                                                              
                                                                                                             

                                                   i want to use this forum to wish all those born in this great month OCTOBER a happy special birthday! i was born in october & am so blessed & favoured to be an octoberian.  i remember a tale told me by my granny about the month of october.

                                                           there lived a beautiful girl in the village of  blossoms,  named october. she was like the roses, so fair a girl & there were countless suitors that wanted her hand in marriage,  there were the poor, the rich, the strong, the weak, the tall, the short, all kind you name it, she became so confused & decided to go on a journey that would last for 3 days, a journey that would help her determine on the worth of the man she would eventually choose to be her husband.

                                                            on her way out of  her village she saw an old woman who was carrying a very big & heavy basket on her fragile looking  neck, october felt pity & rushed over to the woman to assist her with the load,  october carried the old woman's load to her destination as  slowly &  at the old woman's pace.  she got to the old woman's place, put the load down & helped the woman set her fire for shelter & assisted the woman to do some chores.

                                                         october stayed with the old woman for days, forgeting her mission, she concentrated on  bringing  joy into the life of the old  woman & putting a lasting smile on the old woman's face. eventually she decided to go home to her family & decided to go with the old  woman since there was no one there to take care of her.

                                                              on their way back to her village, the old woman got tired, along the way & told october that she was not capable of going any further & that she could go on without her, but october refused & urged her to muster enough strength to go on, the old woman tried but got exhausted & died in the arms of a loving & caring sweet girl called october.   

                                                                    that incidence alttered the way october lived, she decided to devote her life in helping the abandoned old aged, who had no one to help, cater & provide for them. october became so popular in her village in her quest to help the aged. eventually she chose a suitor who believed in her mission & with a combined effort they built a massive building  & donated it to the abandoned aged.

                                                                        that's why those born in october are usually extraordinary individuals who have that golden heart of  human milk of kindness, because the goddess that comes up at the month of october is the goddess of that beautiful girl named october.
                               
                                                                            
                                                                 

                                                 nneka & chinelo have been friends right from their childhood days. they attended the same primary & secondary schools together. when they graduated from their high school, they had plans to further their education to the university level, but chinelo's parents could not afford the financial capability to train her any further.

                                                  nneka came from a respectable well to do family. nneka bought two jamb forms, she kept one for herself & gave the other to her friend chinelo. they took their exams, nneka passed & was admitted into the university of nigeria nsukka to study medicine, but her friend chinelo failed. nneka refused to accept the admission because of her friend, she told her parents she couldn't bear to leave her friend behind while she wallow in self pity, that they would retake the exam again, after the much cajoling & coaxing failed, her parents decided to succumb to her wish.

                                                       nneka forfeited her admission & the next year she & her friend retook the exam & both were admitted to the same school to study different courses. nneka was admitted for medicine while chinelo was admitted for engineering. nneka assisted chinelo greatly in school, she provided the school fees & the course materials they needed throughout their study at the university, though it was easier for her because her parents provided enough for her upkeep.

                                                   they graduated,did their national youth service & got employment through the connection of nneka's father. they were full grown adults now & they both had their different dates. nneka was going out with a cool & handsome looking top executive, while chinelo was dating a business man. 

                                                   two years after graduation, nneka & her beau decided to tie the nuptial knots. they started making arrangements, meanwhile chinelo has broken up with her own man. nneka was looking forward to her wedding with so much anticipation, she got special hands to help her plan her wedding, everyone was kept on their toes because she wanted it to be a one- in- town affair. of course her chief bride's maid was going to be no other person but chinelo, her best friend & confidante.

                                                    three weeks to the wedding she noticed that emeka her husband-to-be was acting strangely & each time she asked him what the problem was he would shrug & say it's just office stress, he became easily irritated, any little issue he would flair up & use abusive words on her. she would cry & rush off to her friend's place to cry on her shoulder. few days to the wedding, emeka took her out for a dinner date, there he told her that he's deeply sorry for the way he had treated her lately, that he was passing through some pressure & without mincing words, he told her that he's sorry to call off their wedding right then, because someone else was pregnant with his baby.

                                                  emeka wedded chinelo, nneka's best friend, who was prettier, taller & more classy than nneka & who was also three months  pregnant for him, in the church were he had planed to wed nneka previously. of course nneka found out & what could she do? she tried to ascertain where she had gone wrong, how & when her friend chinelo & emeka started seeing each other without any slightest trace. she decided to leave them to fate & move on with her life.

                                                     is deep friendship really worth it? most times you see friends stabbing their friends on the back for no justifiable reasons. i've been betrayed too by friends i really trusted & confided in & that has coloured my views about friends, personally i don't believe in  deep friendship  anymore.

                                                 though some people are lucky to have been blessed wih good friends & they cherish it. but friends should not take their good friends for granted, any one who can trust you, love you & stand by you, should be shown enough appreciation & held in high esteem. if you've ever betrayed the trust of any good friend, try & apologise to such a friend, good friends are hard to come by & when you are fortunate to have one, keep & cherish such a friend & value that friend, greatly.