Sep
17th
SINGLE & SIGNIFICANT
By chayoma
I watched a programme on LTV channel, a local
television station in lagos state, nigeria. the programme has
the above title as the topic in discussion. it was about the
tribulations, some singles face, especially here in nigeria. most
singles in this continent are seen as irresponsible, not fit
to be looked upto or emulated.
most singles are affected by the norms & set rules of the society, that they refuse to build themselves up positively. they measure their own lives by the standards set by the society & in doing this, they deny themselves of the basic tools for growth,productivity & self- reliance, which nature has put in place to be used by all human, for the betterment of mankind. some allow their dreams & aspirations to die prematurely just because they want to do what the society wants. they live in the abstract.
most singles especially the ladies believe that they can only maximise their potentials ONLY when they get married. they attribute their success in life to the person they will eventually marry, some withhold their happiness till they are married, hoping to get their dose of happiness from the person they marry. they keep some of the luxuries they could afford & enjoy at the moment till they get married, denying themselves of some beautiful moments, just because they are single & because the society has said it is bad, then they swallow it & will be drying up & dying in silence.
let me tell you all singles, your happiness does not depend on another individual. if you are not happy with your self, no body can make you happy. there is nothing wrong with you setting your goals in life as a single person. you can achieve whatever you want to achieve without a man/woman. marriage is not the bed rock of success, it is not a yard stick to measure one's successes with, agreed that some individual achieved some level of success by the type of people they married, they had worked on themselves & were open minded, initialising every positive ventures, that came their way & when the opportunity presented itself, they grapped it & used it to climp the ladder of greater success. they didn't just sit at home bemoaning their fate, they went out into the world, to fight themselves out.
wake up singles, don't slumber! you can achieve whatever you want to achieve, just get up, dust yourselves & step out in to the world, there are some many things you can do to improve your selves, you don't have to wait for any body to get your groove back, don't wallow in self-pity, it is a killer of potentials, put on a sunny smile, go out, meet people, socialise, get connected, you'll make it big time if you believe in your self.
you are not too old to start making plans for your life, no time is late, your morning comes when you wake up. so if you are just waking up now, it's not late to start now. just sit up & make the most of your life. make your life worthwhile, while you still have breathe in you.
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG IN BEING SINGLE, IT'S AN OPPORTUNITY TO DEFINE YOURSELF & SET YOUR PATH RIGHT!
most singles are affected by the norms & set rules of the society, that they refuse to build themselves up positively. they measure their own lives by the standards set by the society & in doing this, they deny themselves of the basic tools for growth,productivity & self- reliance, which nature has put in place to be used by all human, for the betterment of mankind. some allow their dreams & aspirations to die prematurely just because they want to do what the society wants. they live in the abstract.
most singles especially the ladies believe that they can only maximise their potentials ONLY when they get married. they attribute their success in life to the person they will eventually marry, some withhold their happiness till they are married, hoping to get their dose of happiness from the person they marry. they keep some of the luxuries they could afford & enjoy at the moment till they get married, denying themselves of some beautiful moments, just because they are single & because the society has said it is bad, then they swallow it & will be drying up & dying in silence.
let me tell you all singles, your happiness does not depend on another individual. if you are not happy with your self, no body can make you happy. there is nothing wrong with you setting your goals in life as a single person. you can achieve whatever you want to achieve without a man/woman. marriage is not the bed rock of success, it is not a yard stick to measure one's successes with, agreed that some individual achieved some level of success by the type of people they married, they had worked on themselves & were open minded, initialising every positive ventures, that came their way & when the opportunity presented itself, they grapped it & used it to climp the ladder of greater success. they didn't just sit at home bemoaning their fate, they went out into the world, to fight themselves out.
wake up singles, don't slumber! you can achieve whatever you want to achieve, just get up, dust yourselves & step out in to the world, there are some many things you can do to improve your selves, you don't have to wait for any body to get your groove back, don't wallow in self-pity, it is a killer of potentials, put on a sunny smile, go out, meet people, socialise, get connected, you'll make it big time if you believe in your self.
you are not too old to start making plans for your life, no time is late, your morning comes when you wake up. so if you are just waking up now, it's not late to start now. just sit up & make the most of your life. make your life worthwhile, while you still have breathe in you.
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG IN BEING SINGLE, IT'S AN OPPORTUNITY TO DEFINE YOURSELF & SET YOUR PATH RIGHT!
Sep
14th
TIME TO LET GO
By chayoma
SOME times in life, when what our heart really desire,
doesn't come to us, we hold our selves in bondage, hoping the
hands of the clock could be turned back for our
sakes. SOME times we fall in-love with someone who is
not worth the dust from our shoes, who doesn't value &
APPRECIATE us, yet we keep pinning for them.
YOU are 'toasted' & chased by someone, for a certain period of time, you weren't ready for a relationship yet, but for the hot chase..............! eventually, you give in, hoping it works, then without knowing how, you lose your balance, falling helplessly & speechlessly in love with him. you couldn't bear to leave his presence, his every word becomes your command.
ALL along, both of you were following the same pattern, improving & building your selves positively. you both got your degrees, even your masters & you are both still aiming high. Suddenly, he gets a massive job, he's sent abroad to brush & polish his skills, for the greater challenge. you are distraught, he gives his word, he'd never leave you.
MANY months later, he's back with a different story. YOU ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR HIM! no explanations, no apologies. you run helter skelter, you call his friends, his relations, NO SHOW! you plead, cry, starve, he's made up his mind, he's moving on without you, you are bad luck he tells his family & they refuse to interfere.
few years later, you are still hoping he'd come back, you refuse to open up to genuine advances. you still remain in the past.
MY dear! IT IS TIME TO LET GO. he's not coming back! the time to let it flow is now, he's not good enough for you, he's not worth those tears, you've shed for his sake, any man who could treat you that way, is not worth the dust from your shoes. release your self, you are too much to be wasted, open up your heart to love again, it was better it happened at the time it did.
YOU ARE SPECIAL & DESERVE THE BEST, GOD WILL BRING YOUR WAY, A LOVE THAT WILL SHINE THROUGH YOU FOREVER.
YOU are 'toasted' & chased by someone, for a certain period of time, you weren't ready for a relationship yet, but for the hot chase..............! eventually, you give in, hoping it works, then without knowing how, you lose your balance, falling helplessly & speechlessly in love with him. you couldn't bear to leave his presence, his every word becomes your command.
ALL along, both of you were following the same pattern, improving & building your selves positively. you both got your degrees, even your masters & you are both still aiming high. Suddenly, he gets a massive job, he's sent abroad to brush & polish his skills, for the greater challenge. you are distraught, he gives his word, he'd never leave you.
MANY months later, he's back with a different story. YOU ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR HIM! no explanations, no apologies. you run helter skelter, you call his friends, his relations, NO SHOW! you plead, cry, starve, he's made up his mind, he's moving on without you, you are bad luck he tells his family & they refuse to interfere.
few years later, you are still hoping he'd come back, you refuse to open up to genuine advances. you still remain in the past.
MY dear! IT IS TIME TO LET GO. he's not coming back! the time to let it flow is now, he's not good enough for you, he's not worth those tears, you've shed for his sake, any man who could treat you that way, is not worth the dust from your shoes. release your self, you are too much to be wasted, open up your heart to love again, it was better it happened at the time it did.
YOU ARE SPECIAL & DESERVE THE BEST, GOD WILL BRING YOUR WAY, A LOVE THAT WILL SHINE THROUGH YOU FOREVER.
Sep
11th
TO YOU MY BODY
By chayoma
most times we don't appreciate our selves, we don't
like the way we look, the way we walk,the way we talk &
the way we laugh & how we relate to people. most times we
underrate our selves, we don't see any thing good in ourselves, we
allow some bad people into our lives to mess us up. i had been
a victim of that too, a victim of self-victimization.
i kind of disliked myself sort of, for no just cause. i
was always comparing myself to people, seeing nothing good in
whatever i did. mocking myself & telling me that i could not
achieve any set goals, allowing people to trample on me, abuse me
& violate me, all bcos i didn't have confidence in my self, in
my ability, in my God given beauty & in my
everything.
that's why i want to use this medium to say a big sorry to MYSELF for all the hurt i've caused her by degrading her, letting her down, allowing people to debase her & talk to her any how they liked, MY LOVE! MY BODY!! AM SO SORRY!!. i would say it was ignorance that made me do all that to ME. i'll cherish YOU for the rest of my days. i'll make up for every tear i caused YOU, I'LL PAMPER YOU, ADORE YOU, FIGHT FOR YOU.
AND FOR THE REST OF MY DAYS, AM GOING TO LOVE YOU.
I LOVE YOU TO SMITHERINGS!!!
that's why i want to use this medium to say a big sorry to MYSELF for all the hurt i've caused her by degrading her, letting her down, allowing people to debase her & talk to her any how they liked, MY LOVE! MY BODY!! AM SO SORRY!!. i would say it was ignorance that made me do all that to ME. i'll cherish YOU for the rest of my days. i'll make up for every tear i caused YOU, I'LL PAMPER YOU, ADORE YOU, FIGHT FOR YOU.
AND FOR THE REST OF MY DAYS, AM GOING TO LOVE YOU.
I LOVE YOU TO SMITHERINGS!!!
Sep
11th
SWEETNESS
By chayoma
smile gives the face a
beautiful design,
grieve gives the face an ugly design
laughter gives the face a broadened design
tears gives the face a wet, soddened design.
when happy, we tend to cherish those little things in our lives,
when sad, we tend to forget those big blessings that came our way.
For you that is homeless, knowing how it feels to sleep on the
streets, exposed to the colds & whirl wind of the night, be rest
assured that a respite is coming your way, knowing that, the fact
you have breathe in you, you can still conquer, raising your head
up in pride, knowing that i care & feel your plight.
i say a prayer for you in my heart. TAKE HEART.
grieve gives the face an ugly design
laughter gives the face a broadened design
tears gives the face a wet, soddened design.
when happy, we tend to cherish those little things in our lives,
when sad, we tend to forget those big blessings that came our way.
For you that is homeless, knowing how it feels to sleep on the
streets, exposed to the colds & whirl wind of the night, be rest
assured that a respite is coming your way, knowing that, the fact
you have breathe in you, you can still conquer, raising your head
up in pride, knowing that i care & feel your plight.
i say a prayer for you in my heart. TAKE HEART.
Sep
11th
SADNESS IN MARRIAGE
By chayoma
There
could be a crying soul, in the enfold of supposedly love
fantasies. some marriages are emblems of burning fire. many women
are suffering in the enfold of marriage, though they don't
have the heart to pull out, they are being consumed by the
flames. they hope for a new dawn they can't find any where
else, except in their hearts. I want to speak to you grieved
heart, be positive minded. don't let the abusive words, the
slandering you get from your spouse break down your defences.
Don't be broken in the face of the torture. Refuse to be crushed,
as long as your spirit is still strong, it can carry you to where
you want to get to.
The power of an
individual is exibited by the refusal of the spirit to be crushed
by any oppression whatsoever. Be strong, have faith, be hopeful
& above all be prayerful. prayer has been known to be an
antidote to the toughest situation any man had ever
experienced in this life. Above all try & be happy, try to
carry a smile on your face often. i know it's not easy but put it
to practice & before long you'll master it.
TO ALL YOU LADIES WHO ARE SO MISERABLE IN YOUR
MARRIAGES. SOME ONE FEELS YOUR PAINS & REACHES
OUT TO YOU ALL. IT SHALL BE WELL OK?
Sep
10th
THE STRENGTH OF A CARE.
By chayoma
i was going to work this morning, along the path i pass
every morning, i saw a child crying outside a black gate, i
passed by, then i turned back & went up to the child, bent down
to her level, held her to myself, looked up to her face &
wiped her tears without a word to her. as i stood up to straighten
myself, she looked up to me & then gave me a subtle smile
& i felt fulfilled that instant. as she waved her goobyes
as i turned to leave, i felt proud of myself.
show a little care every now & then.
show a little care every now & then.
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