African Entertainment
Jun 1st

DAD GAVE ME MY WIFE

By Jane bond

 – Dayo (D1) Adeneye
By Taiwo Oluwadare
Saturday, May 30, 2009

Dayo Adeneye, a radio/T.V presenter, has carved a niche for himself in broadcasting as well as entertainment. Prime Time Africa, a programme that he anchors with his bosom friend and colleague, Kenny Ogungbe, is a rave both on radio and television.

But Adeneye aka D1 and Kenny are more visible in the entertainment sector with their record label, Kennis Music, which they floated during their days in Ray Power FM.
When the recording industry seemed dead with the collapse of major labels, the duo of D1 and Kenny went into the business headlong.

They discovered artistes like The Remedy, Paul Play, Tony Tetuila and invested huge amount of money on them. Indeed, their efforts have helped propel the growth of the music industry. In this encounter with Blockbuster, Adeneye recalls how it all started and talks on other issues like piracy, family life, his friend, Kenny Ogungbe and challenges facing the industry.

Beginning
We went into the music business when nobody was there. We invested our money, blood and sweat when everybody said music business was dead. Who discovered artistes like the Remedy, Tony Tetula and Paul Play Dairo? Who invested in them? We invested our money and sweat on them. So, why wouldn’t we always be visible? We can’t take the credit; it is God. But we are glad to be part of the process and for being the instruments to fortify the Nigerian music industry. So, why should we take a back seat having propelled this growth of the industry? We should be at the forefront.

What motivated me into entertainment
I like imparting knowledge in people. I like putting smiles on people’s faces, to make them relax either through music or entertainment programmes. It gives me joy and a sense of fulfillment. Whenever people stop me on the street, saying “we like what you do”, it makes me feel I’m doing what people appreciate and this makes me want to do more.

Economic meltdown and entertainment
Yes, it is a worldwide phenomenon. So, Nigeria cannot be isolated. The financial crunch is affecting everybody especially the multi-nationals. Of course, it is affecting the entertainment industry as people who would normally book like 20 to 30 artistes for shows are now reducing it to 5 or 10. And those who used to pay three or four million naira for artistes are now paying like N5,000. In the area of sponsorship of events, most organizations are pruning down because of financial constraints. Let’s pray and hope that things would pick up soon.

However, our movies and music are beginning to take a centre stage not just in Africa but across the world. The likes of Tuface, 9ice, Ruggedman and D’banj continue to represent Nigeria internationally. They consistently have won international awards. Our Nollywood movies have been quite well. I hope we can capitalize on that and turn it into a vibrant moneymaking machine that government and people of Nigeria can also benefit from.

Challenges facing the industry
There are a lot of things that need to be done. You can have the best idea in the world but if you don’t have a way to execute it, it would remain just an idea. We need to have bigger and better awards. We need to have better technology, music production, video productions, and better film making equipment. All these things cost money. That is why we keep asking government to invest in entertainment. If government invests in the entertainment industry and eradicate piracy, artistes will be able to earn their proper incomes and pay their taxes.

My friend, Kenny Ogungbe
Both of us met in school. We were basically in the same class for almost five years, studying accounting. We became very good friends. We left Ray Power because we just decided to move on. It was just another pace of life. We just felt we’ve done most we could do in that environment. It’s just like a bird, if it’s time for it to leave its nest it flaps its wing and takes off. It was just time to move on and thank God we don’t have any regret.

On Kennis Music and Prime Time Africa
We just get the job done. Here we have a Managing Director; we call ourselves partners and get the jobs done. And that is the secret of our success. The brand, Primetime Africa is what we sell here. We believe if we are successful, everybody gets to share the glory.

Why artistes are leaving Kennis Music
You need to ask them why they left. I’m the wrong person to ask. But I’ll tell you the only thing constant in life is change. Some of them, their contracts expired and both parties agree not to renew. It is not peculiar to Kennis Music alone. Go to Westside Music or Little Fish Record some of them don’t even exist anymore. So, that is the trend in the business. I don’t want to respond to the allegation that we don’t pay royalty to our artistes. You need to bring me those people instigating the allegation. You are a journalist; you should bring me the person that said this artiste is not paid. What you are telling me is a rumour and I don’t respond to rumours.

What fame has done for me
I don’t want to say that fame is a double-edged sword. It opens door for you but at the same time, you lose your privacy. You don’t have time for yourself anymore. But the advantages have outweighed its disadvantages. I love what I do.

Most embarrassing moment
It was some years back in AIT when a female presenter and I were presenting the morning show. She dropped a pen during a commercial break. I tried to pick up the pen and she also tried to pick up the pen not knowing we were live on TV. The situation was really awkward. It was like we were doing something we were not supposed to be doing. That was quite embarrassing but we laughed over it.

How I met my wife
I met my wife through my father. He introduced her to me. That’s all. Today, I’m happily married with children. My wife supports me; she and the children enjoy what I do. I love my family life.

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Jun 1st

DEEPENING DEMOCRACY: Rita and Democracy

By Jane bond

By Jibrin Ibrahim
www.234next.com
May 31,2009

I arrived in Lilongwe airport, Malawi, with a letter from the Commonwealth requesting I be given a visa on arrival to monitor their elections. I was worried about the usual airport humiliation Nigerians suffer. I handed my passport and waited with trepidation.

The question from the immigration officer threw me off guard - "did you travel with Rita Dominic?" I asked who Rita was and he responded that as a Nigerian, how could I ask him who Rita was. I pleaded ignorance and he said Rita was a Nigerian star who like me was to fly in from Johannesburg.

Disappointed that I did not even know Rita, he gave me a form to fill and said when I get into town; I should go to the immigration office and get my visa. I was relieved.

On reading the local papers, I realised the visit of Rita Dominic was causing as much frenzy as the elections we had come to observe. Indeed, the highlight of President wa Mutharika's campaign was the unveiling of a mausoleum in honour of the late dictator, Kamuzu Banda and Rita was the star attraction. That evening, a major concert was to be organised in Blantyre to present Rita to the people of Malawi.

Intrigued by the role Rita was playing in advancing Malawian democracy, I convinced the Chair of our observer team, former Ghanaian president, John Kufour to go and see Rita.

To my surprise, he accepted and off we went to the sports centre where I quickly contacted protocol and we were led through the crowded VIP entrance to the lounge. Two hours later, the show had not started and the general manager of DSTV Malawi, organisers of the concert, came to explain that the hall was full, the crowd outside was larger than the one inside and the crowd had massed round the VIP entrance so they do not know how to bring Rita in.

I told him President Kufour and I walked through the crowd so why can't Rita do the same. He looked at me as if I was an idiot. Rita, he explained, was a mega star and her security is very important. They cannot afford to take a risk. Knowing our place vis-a-vis a Nollywood mega star, Kufour and I quietly walked through the crowd and left. The manager was right; no one took a second glance at us.

The incident reminded me of an occasion when I was checking into a hotel at Jinja, the source of the River Nile in Uganda. On discovering that I was Nigerian, the receptionists questioned me extensively about Nollywood stars about whom I was ignorant. Their conclusion was edifying. Given my corpulence, they expressed the possibility that I could be a Nigerian because I look like one of the big ogas with mansions and four-wheel drive vehicles in the films. However, they added that, since I don't know anything about Nollywood, I cannot really be African, and certainly, not Nigerian.

I always get a shock while travelling round Africa and I realise that my identity as a Nigerian is defined by Nollywood. While Dora Akunyili thinks that she is rebranding Nigeria, Nollywood is the institution branding the country, and the brand revolves around crime, treachery, drugs, superstition, black magic and sex.

The Malawian presidential and parliamentary elections of 19th May were a relatively good branding for democracy and Nigerians, not even Nollywood can give them lessons. Although Kamuzu Banda ruled the country as a ruthless dictator for thirty years, Malawians have managed to engage along the democratic path since 1994 and have made progress.

With the introduction of multiparty democracy in 1994, Bakili Muluzi had defeated Kamuzu Banda in the elections. After ten years in power, Muluzi's attempt to change the constitution and get a third term in office was defeated by the people but he was able to impose his candidate, Mutharika just as Obasanjo did in Nigeria.

Mr. Mutharika's five-year term was difficult because Muluzi controlled the party that brought him to power and the opposition had a majority in Parliament. Mutharika survived by focusing on a development agenda that conquered the hearts and minds of Malawians. The country has had the highest growth rate in Africa over the past three years.

Incompensation, Mr.Mutharika, who established a new party won an overwhelming 50.7% of the presidential votes leaving John Tembo's opposition alliance with 24% while his party won 114 out of the 192 parliamentary seats contested for. The elections were very transparent with political party monitors and civil society observers allowed to witness all aspects of the process from the distribution of voting materials, polling station activities and the counting and collation of votes.

An unfortunate part of the elections however was that there was no level playing ground, as the only television station in the country and national radio, all under state control devoted 93% of their coverage to the president's party. Creating a level playing ground is therefore essential for the next round. I hope Rita will tell the president.

 

 

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May 30th

BIRTHDAY OASIS

By Lady Eno

 There is something about birthdays that force people or at least me to re-evaluate my life and how far I have come, for some people this feeling comes during end or beginning of each year, I guess I am just different or plain weird. Birthdays are supposed to be times to celebrate and await special phone calls from special people, mine is usually different.

 

A typical May 27 for me is always one of these two things, either I indulge myself with work or something that pertains to other people in order not to even remember the occasion or I go into deep hibernation; taking stocking of the past year usually beating up myself for not improving on some things.

 

 A perfect example of the former state of May 27 will be in 2006 when I completely forgot my birthday went to university and all my friends were acting weird; no one said anything so I didn’t remember. At the end of classes that day I wanted to go for a stroll somewhere in the heart of Oxford on my own doing what I usually do, but a friend of mine bless his heart found me at around 4pm and tricked me into following him somewhere because purposely met this girl online he needed to meet up that evening but couldn’t find his mobile so I had to go with him so he can use mine.


 On getting there, they had a surprise party for me. I have to say that is still on record as the most memorable day in my life. But I was very dumb to have fallen for that, I guess I am still as naïve today.

 

I have been thinking about birthday resolutions, I reckon it is a great idea to have resolution during birthdays than any other occasion in the course of a year. As I grow older today, I want to add some things to my list and take some off. I kind of feel lame to be thinking this at this time of the year but hey, its my life. I have been taking stocks of late and I decided there is some good habits I want to develop and bad ones I need to kick to the curb. So here is my list of things I would like to do more of and things I will like to do less of.

 

(1)   Do something for my health everyday. It may be walking, sit-ups, yoga whatever just something for my body each day. As a good friend of mine said recently “ our bodies are the one thing that goes everywhere with us, so we should make taking care of them # one.

(2)   Spiritual self-care. Feeding the spirit so it can sustain the mind and body throughout the day. It can be listening to a message, audio bible, and motivational teachings, reading the bible and daily personal devotion a must.

(3)   Doing something for the mind. Everyday. It can be reading a chapter of a book a day, playing family feud, read a newspaper, anything that makes me think or adds to my understanding of the world. Reading psychology journals and blogs do not count.

(4)   Taking care of me first. It can be saying no, or caring for myself enough to not be around those that constantly put me down.

(5)   Constantly reminding myself that I have no control over other people’s choices and actions.

(6)   Having me time during the day; time to just gaze into space with my mind not working on overtime.

(7)   Watch more TV.

(8)   Start cooking again.

(9)   Be less in love with Human science and how the mind works.

 

Things I will like to do less of:

 

(1) Spending too much time reading psychology journals, Roosh’s blogs and scouting for a good blogs on wordpress.com.

 

(2) Reading over books I have read more than twice already; I mean this is sick.

 

(3) Lend my books out more; I find it really difficult to give out my books, I always feel people will not return them or look after well.

 

(4) Visit Perezhilton.com less.

 

(5) Leave my University research papers alone; I mean I am done with Psychology degree, get over it Rebecca

 

(6) Eat less junk food. I am growing older; I need to pay more attention to what I allow in.

 

(7) Stop obsessing with body weights; its about time.

 

 

 

 

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May 30th

THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES,How to Express Heartfelt commitment to Your Mate

By toniasexy


-------------------   love language #1 ---------------------

                 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION

One way to express love emotinally is to use words that build up.Solomon,author of the ancient Hebrew wisdom literature,wrote, "The tongue has the power of life and death." Many couples have never learned the tremendous power of verbally affirming each other. Solomon further noted," An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up."
  Verbal compliments or word of apprciation, are powerful communication of love. They are best expressed in simple, straightforward statement of affirmation, such as:
" You look sharp in that suit."
" Do you ever look nice in that dress!wow!"
" You must be the best potato cook in the world. I love these potatoes."
  What would happen to the emotional climate of a marriage if the husband and wife heard such words of affirmation regularly? The object of love is not getting something you want but doing something for the well being of the one you love. It is a fact, however, that when we recieve affirming words we are far more likely to be motivated to reciprocate and do something our spouse desires.

     WAYS TO GIVE WORDS OF AFFIRMATION

a) ENCOURAGING WORDS.

Giving verbal compliments is only one way to express words of affirmation to your spouse. another dialect is encouraging words. The word encourage means "to inspire courage" All of us have areas in which we feel insecure. we lack courage, and that lack of courage often hinders us from accomplishing the positive things that we would like to do. The latent potential within your spouse in his or her areas of insecurity may await your encouraging words.

b) KIND WORDS

Love is kind. If then we are to communicate love verbally, we must use kind words. That has to do with the way we speak. The same sentence can have two different meanings, depending on how you say it. The statement "I love you," when said with kindness and tenderness, can be genuine expression of love. But what about the statement "I love you?. the question mark changes the whole meaning of those three words. sometimes our words are saying onething, but our tone of voice is saying another thing. The manner in which we speak is exceedingly important. An ancient sage once said," A soft answer turns away anger."

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                         QUALITY TIME

By quality time, i mean giving someone your undivided attention. I dont mean sitting on the couch watching television together, but sitting on the couch with the TV off, looking at each other and talking, giving each other your undivided attention.

       SOME WAYS OF SPENDING QUALITY TIME:-

 A) TOGETHERNESS:-

A central aspect of quality time is togetherness. I do not mean proximity. Two people sitting in the same room are in close proximity, but they are not necessarily together. Togetherness has to do with focused attention.
Quality time does not mean that we have to spend our together moments gazing into each other's eyes. it means that we are doing something together and that we are giving our full attention to the other person. The activity is the vehicle that creates the sense of togetherness.

b) QUALITY CONVERSATION:-

By this i mean, sympathetic dialogue where two individuals are sharing their experiences, thoughts, feelings and desire in a friendly, uninterrupted context. Quality conversation focus on what we are hearing.

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                 RECIEVING GIFTS:-

A gift is something you can hold in your hand and say,"Look he/she was thinking of me," or, "he/she remenbered me. you must be thinking of someone to give him/her a gift. The gift itself is a symbol of that thought. It doesnt matter whether it costs money. What is important is that you thought of him/her. And it is not the thought implanted only in the mind that counts, but the thoughts expressed in actually securing the gifts and giving it as the expression of love.
Gifts are visual symbol of love. Visual symbol of love are more important to some people than to others. There are ways of giving:-

a) Gifts and Money
b)The gift of self or the gift of presence.


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                  ACTS OF SERVICE:-

By acts of service, i mean doing things
you know your spouse would like you to do. you seek to please him/her by serving him/her, to express your love for him/her by doing things. Such actions like cookimg a meal, setting a table,washing dishes,vacuuming, cleaning a commode, e.t.c are all acts of service. They require thought, planning, time, effort and energy to do them. If done with a positive spirit, they are indeed expression of love.

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                    PHYSICAL TOUCH:- 

We have long known that physical touch is a way of communicating emotional love. physical touch is a powerful  vehicle for communicating marital love. Holding hands, kissing, embracing and sexual intercourse are all ways of communicating love to someone. For some individuals, physical touch is their primary love language. Without it, they feel unloved. Sexual intercourse, however is only one dialect in the love language of physical touch.
 Physical touch can make or break a relationship. It can communicate hate or love. To the person whose primary love language is physical touch, the message will be be far louder than the words "I love you" or " I hate you."
  My dear friends, as u read this, apply the right principles, learn the right love language of your spouse, and soon you'll know the profound satisfaction and joy of being able to express your love - and feeling truly loved in return.
     I wish you happy reading as you learn the love languages and how to express  them to your loved ones.
          
                                      Toniasexy

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May 27th

Not wanting what you wanted

By Lady Eno
I love reading other people's blogs/writings. I came across this blog I really like and it is by a personal  friend of mine. Hope you like it as much as i do. Cheers.



So there are a lot of things about drug use that confuse me. But what confuses me most are how people do coke/ecstasy/meth/whatever to get high but don’t think about the crash into depression that comes after. The crash is as much a part of the experience as the high, but nobody ever says “I am going to get high and then get depressed.” People just talk about the high part.

Actually, drugs are not the point of this post. I bring them up because I have noticed a similar phenomenon when it comes to relationships. There is a lot of wanting to get high but ignoring what comes after. More specifically, I have been noticing lately that people desire mates with certain qualities, but never think that there may be a downside to those very same desired qualities.

There are quite a few examples of this. My favorite example of late is when women seek a professionally successful (and therefore wealthy) man for a husband and then express great frustration when he is too busy to spend quality time with the family. Did you read the recent news articles about Goldman Sachs year-end bonuses? Those guys don’t get anywhere in an I-Bank like Goldman by leaving at 5:00PM every night to be home for the family dinner. Want a man with a chance to make partner in a top law firm? Those guys don’t make partner by insisting on time off for PTA meetings. The vast majority of jobs that pay big money also expect you to bust your ass in exchange for all that wealth. Why doesn’t it occur to women that the hot shot MBA who is going to buy them that fabulous Georgetown townhouse isn’t going to have extra time for his son’s little league games?

Men have their own issues with not wanting what they thought they wanted. We know men tend to be attracted to youthful women. I think if you took a survey of men and asked what the ideal age for a wife would be (and you promised you would never reveal their answers any women), I am sure most would say age 18 is perfect. That is, as long as she turned 18 within the last month. But what’s funny is that men who successfully land a young hottie then become driven to near madness from her immaturity. I have been guilty of this myself. In the past few years I have dated some women in their early 20’s and then complained to friends about xyz ridiculous! stupid! childish! thing they did. The usual response from guys is usually something like, “Put that bitch in her place yo!”. The usual response from women is usually something like, “What did you expect, you idiot??” With hindsight, the ladies have a point. Guys, if you like ‘em young, go for it, but don’t expect a college girl to show sound and prudent judgment in dealing with you. Expect an impulsive kid raised in an age of instant gratification who was spoiled rotten by excessively indulgent parents.

I could go on and on. Ladies, you want an assertive alpha male with a strong backbone, right? Funny how that alpha male transforms into a macho jerk when he disagrees with you and stubbornly refuses to back down. Fellas, you want that club hottie who wears fashionable sexy clothes? Funny how she transforms into an untrustworthy slut when she flirts with all the club players who hit on her. Ladies, do you like metrosexuals? Funny how they don’t seem so endearing when they insist on different choice of dinner flatware. Ok, instead you want a man’s man who knows how to change a tire just like your dad could? Funny how he think spending all weekend watching football games on TV is a way to spend quality time at home (wearing tapered leg jeans with white sneakers, no less).

I think people would be a lot happier in their relationships if they learned to accept that with every desired quality comes a downside to the very same quality. I am not saying those downsides are a party, but nobody should be surprised when they appear.



Chaco.

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May 25th

A Strong Woman vs. A Woman Of Strength

By susu

A Strong Woman vs. A Woman Of Strength
 

 

 

A strong woman works out every day,
Pride in her appearance she portrays,
But a woman of strength kneels to pray,
Keeping her soul in shape, God leading the way.

A strong woman isn't afraid of anything,
Looking forward to challenges each day will bring,
Women of strength show courage in the midst of fear,
Knowing triumph through faith because the Lord is near.

Strong women won't let anyone get the best of them,
So skilled in defense even if they have to pretend,
Yet a woman of strength gives her best to everyone,
Being anointed with divine blood from the only begotten Son.

A strong woman relies on the physical attributes making her tough,
In her search for power and money she will never have enough,
A woman of strength understands that it’s not about material stuff,
Knowing that before becoming a diamond first she’ll be in the rough.

A strong woman sometimes disguises her feelings shadowed by clouds,
Unhinged when challenged on her policy becoming boisterous and loud,
A woman of strength concerns herself not with judgment from others,
And will not let business interfere with commitments as a wife and mother.

A strong woman is easily impatient back and forth she will begin to pace,
Counting on her holier than thou attitude instead of depending on faith,
A woman of strength is assured trust in God will always carry her through,
And at the Creator’s appointed time she’ll receive all that is justly due.

A strong woman makes mistakes and avoids the same for tomorrow,
Refusing to take time looking back with reverence and Godly sorrow,
The woman of strength realizes life's mistakes no matter how slim,
While thanking God for the blessings as she capitalizes on them.

A strong woman walks head first with no doubt in her mind,
Again, no matter what, she’ll not make this mistake a second time,
But a woman of strength knows God will catch her when she falls,
So when a situation arises again, she’s not afraid to answer the call.

A strong woman wears the look of confidence on her face,
Always doing whatever it takes to finish, seeking only first place,
The woman of strength competes with an emotional sense of grace,
Understanding it’s more important to run a Holy Spirit filled race.

A strong woman has faith that for the journey she’ll have enough,
No matter how uneven the terrain or roads being rocky and rough,
A woman of strength knows it’s in the journey she will become strong,
And the love of God is forever with her, no matter how difficult or long.

A strong woman when uninformed thinks that she is being mistreated,
In the end her physical attributes fail causing doubt to become seeded,
A woman of strength will compromise as a little give and take is needed,
Why? Because a lesson not learned the first time is soon to be repeated.

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May 23rd

JIM IYKE PREPARES FOR THE ALTAR

By Jane bond
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Written by Ekerete Udoh   
Saturday, 23 May 2009

*In love with a Jamaican actress , *His grouse with Nigerian women

He  has been variously described as Nollywood’s playboy -a serial heartbreaker, one whose motto vis-a-vis relationships with women, appears to be “use them and leave them.” Tabloid stories about his sexual escapades are in volumes, leaving many to wonder what he is looking for in a woman or if he will ever find that unique woman who will melt his heart and make him entertain the thoughts of walking down the aisle.

 

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Jim Ike
During a recent encounter with Jim, in New York, the issue of his play-boy image and stories of his sexual liaisons were exhaustively probed. As reported before, he vehemently denied being a playboy, however, admitting that “a million women may pass through your life, but only one will stick and strike that chord in you.” It appears that that one woman may have finally materialized, and struck a strong chord in Jim Iyke’s life.

 

There have been some rumors and published speculations that the handsome actor may have finally found a woman of his dreams - a fact that he has neither denied  nor confirmed, until now. Jim Iyke was asked explicitly if he had finally found the elusive dream woman, and if so, what qualities stood her out of the numerous others that competed for his heart, love and affection?

Smiling infectiously, Jim volunteered, “I am going to tell you everything you need to know. As a matter of fact, I am going to use this opportunity to finally break my silence over this issue. As you rightly pointed out, a lot has been written about my new found love, most of them largely speculative in nature.

“Yes, it is true. I have found the woman of my dreams, and we are in love in totality. She is the embodiment of all that I have been looking for:  tall, pretty, exotic and supremely intelligent. I was looking for a woman who would complement and reinforce my intellectually curious mind -someone who would add and not subtract, and I’m happy to admit that I have finally found her. Her name is Phil, and I would leave it at that.”

How They Met

“I  met Phil sometime last year in the United States. She’s of Caribbean ancestry - more specifically Jamaican. We had a movie shot in Baltimore and Phil was invited by her then friend, Ruth Okoro, to the set, and we had an instant connection. Initially, I thought I was just going to have a good time with her, and keep it moving.

But her beauty, intellect, deeply ingrained values and an abiding capacity to understand and deconstruct me struck me. No other woman I had met ever took time to learn who I was, and what elements and values define my entire being.

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On the to the alter will he ever get there?

 

Phil’s love for me was not based on my fame, rather she cared much about Jim Iyke, as an individual and not Jim Iyke as a star-actor and Nollywood superstar.

I have always believed in the partnership of body, soul and the mind. Oftentimes, the women that crossed my path in the past were more interested in the partnership of the body. But Phil possesses both the intellectual ability and the traditional values that were in short supply  with my recent past relationships.”
In  the   past   few   months, the tabloid newspapers had regaled their readers with the case of betrayal on the part of Jim’s new found love. 

According to reports, “ Phil, supplanted and betrayed her close friend,- Ruth Okoro, who was said to be seeing Jim Iyke at the time she introduced her then best friend, Phil to the Nollywood Sexiest Actor.”
As a result of this betrayal, the two erstwhile friends are mortal enemies today. Asked if he ever had an affair with Ruth, Jim replied in the negative. 

“No. Ruth is not my kind of woman, and the notion that I was seeing her is totally preposterous. How could I be seeing Ruth, when she was even married to my boy, Philips Ehigiwina? She was sleeping around with Emeka Ike. I have values and moral ethos, and those values were in conflict with what I was seeing. 

That was the reason I called Ruth’s husband in Texas, and asked him to come to Maryland and see what his wife was doing with Emeka Ike.

Ruth was caught red handed in bed with Emeka Ike, and she knows this to be the truth. All the nonsense that was written about my alleged jealousy because Ruth was seeing both Emeka and me, were pieces of junk journalism. It is true that Ruth introduced me to Phil. I didn’t need to deny that.

I saw a winner in Phil and I went for her. I have no regrets. What Ruth wanted from me, unfortunately, I couldn’t give it to her because of the fact that I have some morals in me. All the negative things she has said about Phil never bothered me because I know who she is, and I am comfortable with who she is.”

Marital Plans

“Yes, we have discussed it. But we are taking it one at a time. I am actually at a point where starting a family is becoming an attractive proposition, and I am seriously exploring it.

 

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• Keturah ...Jim’s most romantic man
Phil and I have been to Nigeria. She has met with my parents and family members and they all love and adore her. Her values and background mirrors ours and it’s a great feeling. I would say that it appears as if we have the same DNA.”

Why Jamaican Woman?  

 

“I have nothing against the Nigerian woman.  As a matter of fact, I think some of the most beautiful women are in Nigeria, and indeed Africa in general. But I have made my choice, and my choice is a Jamaican woman, someone who has come to understand and appreciate me for who I am .

I do have my grouse with the Nigerian woman, though. Our women often go by the dictates and symbol of status, parental influence or pedigree as opposed to substance.

I struggle hard to make them understand who I am, but I am always unsuccessful. I am tired of that struggle. I have come to realize that it is better to deal with a foreign woman.

With our women, you struggle to define yourself. Foreign women are willing to take you for who you are, as opposed to what you are, which our women tend to emphasize.

If I am in a relationship with a Nigerian, and I am seen outside chatting up another girl - innocently, with no strings attached, I will have a lot of explanation to make to gain back her trust - even though I have nothing romantic to do with that woman.

It’s always a struggle to prove that you are not the person the society has defined you to be, and I am really tired of that struggle.”


Source - www.vanguardngr.com
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May 22nd

Extract from my Journal; Dialogue between the three Tribes

By Lady Eno
May 18, 2008

Extract from my Journal; Dialogue between the three Tribes


Perception is king when it comes to life, what is achieved, and how far success is attained.
Everyone, who looks at the world, tends to perceive differently
A small percentage sees opportunities more than Observe trouble.
Some wait and see where life takes them while others distract themselves with the happenings in the lives of others.
To create happy success one has to choose to filter information and perceive what can aid them to destination good life.
The world is full of perception of three kinds; the haves, the have not
And the averages. Don’t get it twisted wealth is more than just money and money is not happiness, but its plays a huge role.

On the District line traveling from Upton Park to Ealing Broadway, the following conversation took place between these three, each representing their own tribe. And by the way, I was not preying into other people’s conversation; it all took place in my head, while waiting for the overly delayed district line to take me to my home at Chiswick Park.

I hate when the freaking Beckham’s splash their wealth around said the average, David is changing latest cars like its running out of fashion, I mean does he even care about global warming? Posh on the other hand encourages this wasteful expensive lifestyle, first she never repeats any pair of shoes, the money that woman spends on handbags can build orphanages across Haiti and poor South American countries.
This bloody people are just vain and do not care that, there are people in this country who will never know what it feels like to not have Barclaycard chasing them each month for payment. I have run out of my six months interest free credit with all lenders in the UK.
I am just happy with having enough money to pay my bills, travel, feed, and shop, go to the pub every other weekend and give five pounds a month to my favorite charity. My goodness, why will such terrible people have so much luck with money?

A young man engrossed in his reading chipped in saying, I do not mean to interrupt you Sir, but is your hatred for the Beckhams because they are rich or because you think they do not deserve it. Said the have

I do not hate anyone said the average, I am curious as to why people like that have good luck with money, I mean this south London boy has too much money than he knows what to do with. With your suit looking like that you will not understand, after all I saw you join this train from embankment which suggests to me that you work in one of those blue chip company at either embankment, the city, or canary wharf. So what do you do?

Replied the have, I do not believe in luck and I am a senior financial analyst for a company called Goldman Sachs. Basically, I advise companies and very wealthy individuals on what investment poll will double if possible triple their capital. Put simply, I make the wealthy guys money.

And how much do you earn yourself? The average asked

I earn enough to get by, or let’s just say I earn enough for the value I bring to my daily work activities, although I won’t mind a pay raise anytime soon. Said the Have

What arrogance is this kid displaying; I mean he has enough egos for ten men, how can anyone be this proud. Wait till life clips your wings, then you will know that some people are born lucky and if you don’t stop all this obsession with wealth, your luck will soon depart from you. (He said in his heart) Then he voiced out, as for me I am just happy serving my God and going to heaven, after all, the bible says blessed are the poor. How old are you young man?

You rich people are all the same the average mumbles, never satisfied.

I will be twenty seven in September he said. But Sir, with all due respect, I believe that if you want to be rich, or at least live the kind of life you secretly admire, education is paramount. By education I mean asides a university degree, educating your self about money and how it is made, studying the lives and habits of those who have it. These days all these information is only a click away or in books laying around on shelves in bookstores like Water stones, you can go in there and read their books for free in your spare time. About your bible quotes, I believe people tend to misunderstand the bible and make God look bad, poor, and mean. I know God differently.

It’s amazing that at your age you are rich. So where is your Bentley? and why are you on public transport struggling space with us common folks? The average asked.

Trust me; I am still on my way to my destination wealth. Sir, Sometime I feel too tired to drive and every once in awhile I like commuting on public transport, asides the fact that I enjoy it and it’s easier to get to work, the train and bus is my first car. After all, Tony Blair took the train on the day of his grand exist from Downing Street.
Most importantly Public transport is also a means of cutting cost; congestion charges and fuel. Sometimes I go way pass my budget and I have to make up for it in other ways like this.

You are a rich possibly single young man, and with a monthly salary most people don’t earn in ten months and fat annual bonuses, what business do you have with cutting of cost? Asked the have not

Just because I have money to spend does not mean I should not spend wisely. I have a lot of financial responsibilities; several shares and investments here and there, pension funds, charity donations, personal savings, compassionate saving; which I use to help people around me who are financially challenged and saving to start my own media printing business which is going to be huge. And my luxury savings; for world exploring travels, adventure, and social life, I work and play hard.


Furthermore, most rich people are not big spenders said the have; they shop for needs and not wants, quality not quantity, most importantly they live on a budget. By the way I got that from this book (he shows them the book) the latest Donald trump’s book I am reading at the moment.

Sirs, money has laws, to get money you have to understand its principles, it is a coward, and it is less likely to go to those who do not understand it, and cannot take care of it. When well taken care of, money appreciates in value with time. I often compare money to a good woman who knows what she wants.

Contrary to popular believe, wealthy people give, as much as you will want to disprove this if you don’t give, wealth will not be attracted to you. Sir I am a Christian too and I want to be super wealthy, I don’t know about you, but I can praise God better when I am able to pay all my bills and still have monies left to enjoy life.

My stop is next Sirs in conclusion; everything is dependant on how we view the world and what is perceived everyone maybe look at the same object but we all see different things. Perception is streamlined by personal beliefs and understanding thus, making education relevant in how we perceive. Educate and nourish your perception of wealth and wealthy people. Have a great rest of your day Sirs.


I observed a lot of characteristics that separates these three tribes.

Time: Tribe have, tends to place a high value on their time thus, engage in productive past times in their spare time. Time spent in commuting can be use to read a book, or listen to audio books for self improvement. Time is the single must precious factor, its waits for no-one; it is actually the only thing that everyone has an equal.

Respectful: A good percentage of tribe have, are respectful and know how to handle people who may come across as rude. Psychologist call this emotional intelligence; being aware of people and deciding on how to handle their excesses.

Responsible: They are aware that it is their responsibility to make their own lives what they want it to be. They are not dependant on society or other people they take the blame for their own mess. There is a really simple secret to overcoming seeing others as obstacles in your life and that’s realizing that everything you do or do not do is your responsibility.

Education: Tribe have, place a high value on continual education. They understand that which separates them from other tribes is knowledge so they invest a great deal in both formal and informal education and self improvement.

Budget: This is one of the main characteristic of tribe have. It is the only way for anyone who is or plans to be wealthy. To create and keep wealth, one cannot afford not to have and religiously follow a budget. Ok I read this in Donald Trump’s latest book.

Quality Shopping: For tribe have, shopping means quality more than quantity, that’s not to say they do not love a good bargain or await those annual Debenham and Harrods sales. Tribe have, will rather buy one good pair of jean and wear it for three years than buy cheap quality which will wear out after its third visit to the washing machine. Also they are not constantly shopping for the latest trend even though they can afford to, they employ wisdom in their spending habits because they understand that the reason 10% of the world enjoys 90% of the world’s wealth is that the first are creators, while the latter are consumers. The have not and the average are compulsive consumers, while the haves are the creators of the goods and services.
I still wonder why one individual feels the need to have an iPhone, newest digital camera, a cam-coder, latest Nokia, an Ipod and a blackberry phone, when all these gadgets have similar functions.
They need to pause and think how apple still manages to gross profits in billions despite the current global economic state.

Giving and Saving: The haves give wisely and save. They have specific savings for specific purposes. A good percentage of them genuinely want to make a difference in people’s life. Money will leave where it is not well taken care of. Trust me this is how the likes of Mike Tyson went bankrupt.

Are positive and expectant: Tribe haves are positive vibrant and always expectant of goodness. They are fast to learn from mistakes there is no room for self pity in clan haves. They are aware of their weakness and strength and constantly seeking ways to channel their strength on weakness.

Discipline: My definition for this word is simply being willing to do what is required even if you don’t feel up to it. Tribe haves thrive on this ten letter word. According to the laws of Rebecca, the most important factor for measuring a person who is successful or going to be is seen in their level of discipline.

Commitment: Without commitment there is hesitancy to withdraw. This is a relative of discipline that is equally relevant to what is achieved and how.

Planning: A plan is merely an arrangement on how to achieve desired goals. Bearing in mind that you cannot afford to be married to your plan, if it’s not working change it. For example, if you want to drive from west to central London, you can pass through short cuts or a straight route depending on what you hope to achieve and how. If there is too much traffic going through one way change to another way, as long as you get to central London and on time.
In course of achieving anything great I find planning is indispensable, but I also find that plans are utterly worthless when it is not applied in perspective. Tribe haves are aware that plans must be flexible.


Want more and Think Creatively Big: To the haves, thinking big is a part of their existence; they understand the power of creative thought pattern. Psychologists believe that the mind has two sides to thought processing; the thinker and the prover, the thinker initiates the thought and the prover goes to work to prove that which is constantly brooded upon. To the haves there is always new grounds to break, and it is not an indication that they are not satisfied, it just shows they are progressive and forward looking. It is in their DNA. I am sure there are things Bill Gates still hopes to accomplish.

Choice: For all three tribes happiness is a choice. It all depends on what makes you happy, being ok with your choices good or bad, wallowing in regret and self pity or being content with such things as you have.

Purpose: Lastly Tribe haves, live for something greater than themselves. People who lead meaningful lives don’t find that meaning in possession or position; they find it in carrying out personal commitment to ideals bigger than themselves and their own needs.





19/05/2008
Rebecca
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May 21st

why do men cheat??

By queen

I think men cheat because of the thrill or sex...

What do you think???

Well  let me let out some of my thoughts;

When men have affairs, they tend to be motivated by sex — new sex, more sex, different sex. Women cheat for many reasons: companionship, romance, more security, and, of course, sex. But are men’s motivations really that simple? No. Even for men, cheating is far more complex.

Studies show most men who cheat want to experiment sexually and experience the rush associated with “new sex.” This is their way of prolonging indefinitely the early and intoxicating phase of infatuation in a relationship. But men also have affairs to either avoid intimacy, recover their lost youth, or escape an unhappy marriage.

I will continue in my next section...

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May 14th

Creating with Passion

By Lady Eno

 

“There is only one success; to be able to spend your life in your own way”

Christopher Morley, where the Blues Begin

 

 Have you ever had a thought that begins with something like, why isn’t there a store for ……….. , a service that caters to………….. , or the likes? If a need occurs to you, chances are others are experiencing it. Voids that you perceive in the consumer landscape may be the seed of an idea for business.

 

The secret is out. Anyone who has a passion, a brain and uses it has what it takes to start and build their own business empire. Attributes like creativity, resourcefulness, courage, persistence, an instinct for what people what, optimism and the ability to work long and hard and learn from mistakes seems to be all that is required of any budding entrepreneur. Just because you do not think you possess all these traits does not mean you shouldn’t start your own business. It may mean you will need to find a way around your weaknesses; perhaps set goals to work on them. The important thing is being intone with your passion, recognising your strengths and weaknesses so you can develop strategies to either capitalise on or overcome them.

 

 When one can combine a passion with an ability to see and seize an opportunity where others might not, coupled with a desire to running your own show, impossibility truly becomes nothing. There are only two questions you have to ask yourself, the first one is, what am I passionate about?  The second is what stops me from developing this passion? If what is lacking is information go get it, Michael Neil once said, the answer to all your questions lays on the internet, development books and biographies. Yes indeed, there is nothing new under the sun.

 

 When I say passion, I do not mean what you think you can have; I mean what you really want, that thing which gives you butterflies just thinking about it, that thing which you would rather be doing than your nine to five or whatever you do. I mean that which whenever you think about brings that aliveness inside. The point is, it is easier to get what you want than what you think you can have. What are you passionate about?

 

 Creating a successful business empire all sterns from passion itself, if there is something that you are passionate about there is a reason for that, in the context of following your inspiration, if it is really inspiring to you, something great will come out of it. In the real world this will work, just ask yourself what will I want to be doing today?

 We all have a little bit of the entrepreneur in us, but some people show this even early in their childhood, going beyond the usual lemonade stands and girl Scout cookie sales.

 

 Here is a story of Janine Hilly a thirty –five year old successful business owner, who has built her business empire around her passion. From a very early age Janine loved creating things sewing with pieces of clothe, Janine would make pillow cases and sew designs on them at age twelve, she went to university studied medicine to make her parents happy, but her passion was still a huge driving force in her life, she made and designed pillow cases for friends and families on special occasions until, one day she finally decided to live her life the inspiring way, waking each day to do what she loved doing. Today she is one of the most sort after interior design in New York,  her client list includes ex US President Clinton, Oprah Winfrey, President Obama, to name a few.

 

 Chances are that if there is something you genuinely enjoy offering, there are people out there who would love to receive it. The trick is finding those people. That in a nutshell, is marketing, more on that next time.

Rebecca aka. Lady Enor

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