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Brand new singles from the talented Niger-Delta babe! As some of you may already know, she was the 1st Runner-Up at the 2008 Idols West Africa. She also laid a verse on the “Inspire Africa All Stars” track we all fell in love with.

Here’s the Diva’s follow-up effort to “In the Music.”


Go to this link to listen to the songs..... I think she did a good job and would definitely go far.....


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 I don't believe that all cheaters are in it just for the sex. Sex is the tool sometimes. Almost everyone said it. They are looking for something they aren't getting at home. Attention, love, support, frienship, the need to feel wanted, something new and don't forget something old. I happen to know a man who is getting maried and is cheating on his fiance with an old girlfriend.

It is true that some people have sex additions and those people should not get married however society suggest that marriage is the appropriate thing to do. Which adds to my next point. Just because a man marries you or a woman marries a man does not mean they made the right choice. In the world today people think it's much easier to settle now and wander later than to be patient and wait for someone who totally fullfills you.

 Our society is lazy when it comes to making important decisions. One night stands are different than affairs. One  night stands are  mistakes. Affairs are more deeply rooted. Someone wrote " the time that is spent hiding the affair and the thought involved with making up lies could easily be spent investing in the relationship they are in to make it better" hmmm well there is your answer.

The decision is theirs. A man or woman who truly respects their partner would make the right decisions that will bring out the best in their relationship. If you think your man or woman is cheatting, just follow your gut its usually correct. Let every woman know that it is not your fault. So, stopped beating yourself. I do agree that a man or a woman will treat you however you allow them to.

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Love is not our only emotional need. Psycologists have observed that among our basic needs are the need for security, self-worth, significance. Love,however, interfaces with all of those.

If i feel loved by my spouse, i can relax, knowing that my lover will do me no ill. I feel secure in his/her presence. I may face many uncertainties in my vocation.I may have many enemies in other areas of my life, but with my spouse i feel secure.

My sense of self-worth is fed by the fact that my spouse loves me. After all, if he/she loves me, i must be worth loving. My parents may have given me negative or mixed messages about my worth, but my spouse knows me as an adult and loves me. His/her love builds my self-esteem.

The need for significance is the emotional force behind most of our behaviour. Life is driven by the desire for success. We want our lives to count for something. We have our own idea of what it means to be significant, and we work hard to reach our goals. Feeling loved by a spouse enhances our sense of significance. We reason, if someone loves me, i must have significance.

Love is not the answer to everything, but it creates a climate of security in which we can seek answers to those things that bothers us. In the security of love, a couple can discuss differences without condemnation. Conflicts can be resolved. Two people who are different can learn to live together in harmony.
                                           Toniasexy

"The Watchers at the Gates," by Gail Godwin is an intersting article to read. In the article she talks about the nature of writer's block. Godwin offers suggestions to help students and writers overcome writer's block and also explains why it occurs. at first, I did not know  what "The Watchers at the Gates" meant. Gradually I understood that Godwin meant the negative words that I say to myself about my writting as well as the negative words others say to me about my writting and the difficulties that result from these harsh words. As I read on, I could relate to her article. I really enjoyed her article because it made me evaluate the watchers in my life and gave me alternatives to them. Godwin's suggestions to fight writer's block include catching the watcher off guard, drawing a picture of the watcher, and getting to know the watcher.

Catching the watcher off guard may seem a difficult task but after reading about a few of Godwin's ideas, it seemed attainable. First, she said, "Look for situations when he's likely to be off-guard." that  seemed like a good idea, but I said to myself  how would I catch  him off-guard? Then Godwin said, "write too fast for him in an unexpected place, at an unexpected time." I usuaaly write at night, so I will follow her suggestion and write in the morning. My typical strategy for writting is to think before I write, and fix grammar, sentence structure and wording along the way. After reading Godwin's ideas, I came up with this idea which is to write whatever comes to mind instead of using the usual method of writting.

When I first read Godwin's suggestion to make a drawing of my watcher, I thought that was the silliest thing I had ever read in my life. however, after putting some thoughts into why she would advise her readers to draw a picture of him, I came to the conclusion that, in fact, it was not a bad idea. I thought of being afraid of the dark as a child, until my mother brought a flash light into my room and showed me that it looked exactly the same in the light as it did in the dark. I compared that to drawing a picture of my watcher. Just as my room was not as scary after I saw that it looked the same in the light as in the dark, I thought that if I were to draw a picture of my watcher, I would not find him so intimidating.

Godwin suggested that I get to know my wather because he is mine. I have always had an inner critic but now he has a name, watcher. I began to think of all of the watchers in my life. Not only do I have a watcher when I am trying to write papers for school, but I also have watchers in other aspects of my life who tell me "you can not do it so do not even try." For an example, when I decided to go for higher education, my watcher told me " you can't make it, higher education is not for you so why bother?" Thanks to Godwin for all her strategies to prevevent watchers from interfering when I am writting and to tell of all my watchers to shut-up and that I can and will complete...

The last paragraph of the article really blew me away. I thought it was really profound when Godwin asked her watcher what he was afraid that she would do, and he wrote back "fail." I think her watcher and mine have a lot in common. I enjoyed this article because it made me take a good look at all of the watchers in my life and see them for the hateful creatures they are.

Can you relate??? Please feel free to leave me your comments.