•Real reason she left
By SAMUEL OLATUNJI
Sunday, September 20, 2009
www.sunnewsonline.com

•Monalisa Photo: Sun News Publishing

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Facts emerged during the week that Monalisa’s estranged husband, Segun Dejo-Richards was married for six months before getting married to the Glo Ambassador.

Sources told Sunday Sun that Dejo had an elaborate wedding reception at the Sheraton Hotel and Towers, Ikeja, Lagos and was married for six months before the lady (name withheld) in question packed her load and fled.

Dejo, however, denied this, saying someone was out to ruin him.
Meanwhile, Monalisa has added another twist to the story, saying she did not know about the marriage until she got married to him and it was too late for her to leave. ‘Those are part of the issues’ (for the crashed marriage), she said. She then went ahead to plead with us not to publish the story because she wouldn’t want people to think she said so.

Our source, however, insisted that Monalisa knew about the first marriage before she married Dejo. ‘A friend of hers warned her but she chose to look the other way’, our source said. ‘She cannot claim to be innocent now that the marriage has collapsed. Her eyes were widely open before she walked into the man’s life. ’
Meanwhile, another source who does not want his name in print said Dejo Richards is economical with truth on issue of beating his wife. Monalisa was said to have attended one of Globacom’s numerous unveilings with wounds believed to have been sustained in one of her squabbles with Dejo. Dejo had, however, claimed in an earlier interview with this reporter immediately we broke the news of the break up that the last time he laid his hand on Lisa was in 2006. He said all that has been put behind them and Lisa was, in actual fact, the first person to hit him in their marriage.

But a very close and knowledgeable source to the couple said that Segun has been consistently beating his wife out of insecurity. ‘The girl had to pack out of his house when he could no longer control his temper. He almost killed her. She went to Glo function with a red eye, yet he goes about in the press trying to paint himself as a saint and others as being responsible for his woes. Did those people ask him to be beating his wife? Her family has been agitated since she announced her plans to get married to Richards. Her colleagues at work know him as wife batterer.

They just chose to look the other way. Her state governor had called her to comfort her. Segun is just insecure and looking for cheap popularity. Are you not surprised that Monalisa is not talking to the press, but he is the one granting interviews. The girl knew she was in a wrong marriage from onset, but she believed she could make it work, not knowing that she was deceiving herself. Call people and ask them about how he has been molesting his wife. Why is it that his in-laws are not friendly with him? Now, he wants to turn around to say it’s because of money she left him.

The girl would have married a richer person. If money was her mission, she wouldn’t have married him in the first place. She married him out of love, but when love was almost killing her, what do you expect her to do? She had to leave when the guy almost killed her.’
When contacted, Monalisa refused to talk, saying she wouldn’t join issues with her ex-hubby. She, however, confirmed sending an apology to Genevieve via a text.

Source: http://www.sunnewsonline.com/webpages/features/showpiece/2009/sept/20/showpiece-20-09-2009-001.htm

        i remember when a friend of mine lost her young husband, it seemed she had come to her own end. onyinye, got married, when she was  in her second year, at the university. her husband was a jand guy, who just came back from canada, to get himself a wife. he fell in love with onyinye & without wasting time, he rushed her to the altar & they were married, pronto!

          before she got to her final year she gave birth to their first child, a baby girl. her husband, uche got her a brand new car & a palatable apartment, then he travelled back to his base, with the assurance that when onyinye graduates, she will join him over there, at canada. onyinye, was thankful that GOD blessed her with such a man as uche for a husband.

           when onyinye, was on her national service (NYSC),  she decided to visit her mother-in-law & beg her to come to lagos with her  to help her take care of her daughter. the mother accepted & came, for the time the mother-in- law was with her, it was all hell for her, she thought she was doing the woman a favour by bringing her to lagos & taking care of her, but she only succeeded in bringing miseries into her  life.

         it continued when she finished her primary assignment, till her husband came back. uche's mother refused that her son will take his wife to canada with him, there was a long fight because of that at the end, uche was adament that he's taking his wife with him whether the mother liked it or not & this didn't  go down well with his mother & she left for the village angrily.

             the next thing that happened was that uche fell sick & never recovered. he died & that was the beginning of onyinye's suffering. she was sent out of her husband's house & they took the car from her, her late  husband's family maltreated her & at the end took her daughter from her, saying she's the only memory they have of their son & told her to go back to her parents house, that they don't need her anymore.

                 onyinye, at the moment is trying to come back to life as she terms it & i want to use this medium to say to her that the lord that gave her life will surely see her through & help her to carry this cross & very soon, she shall smile again & the laughter of victory shall be her portion.

                      to all the widows out there, be courageous, no matter what you are going through now, just know that the good lord will never leave you lonely, HE shall always be by your side to console & comfort you, in whatsoever you are passing through.

                                  BE BRAVE! BE STRONG!! & BE HAPPY!!!.
                                  NO CONDITION IS PERMANENT, IT SHALL SURELY GET BETTER
 SOMEDAY!           

By Habeeb Lawal
GISTS AND PICTURES FROM THE PREMIERE OF “STEPHANIE OKEREKE’S THROUGH THE GLASS”

Between being harrased by a really big muscle man and getting the evil eye from Fathia “don’t take my picture” Balogun, I managed to get gists and a few pictures at the premiere of Stephanie Okereke’s new movie “Through the Glass” this past Sunday.

First, I got my ticket to the event by entering and wining a contest on facebook.  I was elated because I had heard so much about the film, and here I was going to the premiere for free, and a chance to attend an event that had a promise of being great.   
The event was held at the Silverbird Galleria on Ahmadu Bello in Victoria Island, Lagos.  Like I expected, the event was graced by many Nollywood celebrities like Chidi Mokeme, Eucharia Annunobi, Mona Lisa Chinda, Kanayo O. Kanayo, Ngozi Ezeonu, Tchidi Tchikere, Emem Isong and Other socialites like Grace Egbagbe, john Fashanu and Sammy Okposo.
With all these people in attendance, I started taking pictures immediately I got to the red carpet. I was only on my 5th or 6th shot when some gigantic looking man tapped me on the shoulder. He asked if I had a press pass, I said no but I had an invitation which I was holding. Imagine my shock, when this man physically moved out of the way.  The worst thing was that there was a white man right in front of me who had the same colour invitation and doing the same thing but Mr. Hefty did not even go near him not to talk of asking him any questions. This is what we have to deal with in Nigeria. Our own people treating us like dirt but you have to learn to show tolerance or else you stand the risk of going bonkers.  
Apart from the above incident, I can report that the red carpet event was colourful. The event proper did not start until 7pm although red carpet commenced at 4pm. When it finally kicked off, Patrick Doyle was the MC.  He started by introducing celebs in the house and showed us clips of  Stephanie during her ghastly motor accident years back and her healing process.  This was indeed a touching moment, especially when she now came out to give a speech with two co-actors who flew all the way from Los Angeles to grace the occassion.

THROUGH THE GLASS is a romantic comedy that deals with issues of responsiblity, abuse, trust, betrayal and acceptance. It tells the story of Jeffery a promiscous and unserious lad who constanly gets reminded by his rich CEO father of how unreliable and inefficient he has been on being MD of the company and how he stands the risk of loosing his job if he doesnt show any form of seriousness or commitment to his job. He also has a strong bad repuation of being a womanizer and so when he finds a baby abandoned at his door steps, he is no least shocked and so were the welfare officers and police who strongly believe the baby could be his. Amidsts diificulties and tension, Jeffery with the help of his nigerian neigbour Ada( stephanie okereke) are able to take care of the kid and jeffery becomes fond of him but soon the junkie carefree mother of the child discovers how much money she could be making from the government by being a mother and decides to take her son back but Jeffery is ready to give it all he has got, he isnt ready to let go of that one person that has ever made him happy and content and doesnt criticize him.


All in all it was okay, simple story, no complicated plots, nothing extra-ordinary, even dialogue was as simple as it could get. My star of the movie was the little baby who cried at the right moment, stopped when it was needed and i couldnt just help but think it was all pre-planned towards the baby's moods. I didnt also understand why not even a scene throughout the movie could show us what the baby was called, they called him "baby" through the whole film, at least Jeffery who was getting so fond of him could have named him something, even the biological mother called him baby throughout, strange!.

And whats with everyone having sex when they are either supposed to be at duty or place of responsibility eg Police man when jeferry called to report found baby, Nicole, jef;s ex when he called to find out if she could help with the baby.....and even Jeffery in the office scene, not a bad idea, but sometimes i would rather a writer be more dynamic and with a unique sense of style when writing to make it come as real as possible, i almost did take some stuffs with a pinch of salt....I dont intend spoiling this by giving out too much since its unreleased...all in all it was a well attended event and not a bad start for a proffesional career, big ups to the NEXT PAGE PRODUCTIONS team.

Hi guys, would love to have you on this new group i just created. Its for our darling new kid on the block, Nyore, the queen of dance hall and raggea in nigeria. Nyore is a female Nigerian raggae artist,fresh and has a lot to put on the table, she is currently also part of the GIRL POWER CONCERT alongside Mo’cheddah, BB, Nikki Laoye, Ashionye. She has done various collaborations with different artistes like Wande Coal, Kel, 2face, Faze One soul, Khighthouse and MI (on the song, Purple), C-mion, Righteousman and many more.







And we would be having a ball, you dont want to be left out, click on the link below and join....see you there..





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                            I watched a programme on LTV channel, a local television station in lagos state, nigeria. the programme has the above title as the topic in discussion. it was about the tribulations, some singles face, especially here in nigeria. most singles in this continent are seen as  irresponsible, not fit to be looked upto or emulated.

                              most singles are affected by the norms & set rules of the society, that they refuse to build themselves up positively. they measure their own lives by the standards set by the society & in doing this, they deny themselves of the basic tools for growth,productivity & self- reliance, which nature has put in place to be used by  all human,  for the betterment of mankind. some allow their dreams & aspirations  to die prematurely  just because they want to do what the society wants. they live in the abstract.

                              most singles especially the ladies believe that they can only maximise their potentials  ONLY   when they get married. they attribute their success in life to the person they will eventually marry, some withhold their happiness till they are married, hoping to get their dose of happiness from the person they marry. they keep some of the luxuries they could afford & enjoy at the moment till they get married, denying themselves of some beautiful moments, just because they are single & because the society has said it is bad, then they swallow it & will be drying up & dying in silence.
                              
                                    let me tell you all singles, your happiness does not depend on another individual. if you are not happy with your self,  no body can make you happy. there is nothing wrong with you setting your goals in life as a single person. you can achieve whatever you want to achieve without a man/woman. marriage is not the bed rock of success, it is not a yard stick to measure one's successes with,  agreed that some individual achieved some level of success by the type of people they married, they had worked on themselves  & were open minded, initialising every positive ventures, that came their way & when the opportunity presented itself, they grapped it & used it to climp the ladder of greater success. they didn't just sit at home bemoaning their fate, they went out into the world, to fight themselves out.

                               wake up singles, don't slumber! you can achieve whatever you want to achieve, just get up, dust yourselves & step out in to the world, there are some many things you can do to improve your selves, you don't have to wait for any body to get your groove back, don't wallow in self-pity, it is a killer of potentials, put on a sunny smile, go out, meet people, socialise, get connected, you'll make it big time if you believe in your self.

                                    you are not too old to start making plans for your life, no time is late, your morning comes when you wake up. so if you are just waking up now, it's not late to start now. just sit up & make the most of your life. make your life worthwhile, while you still have breathe in you. 

                     THERE IS NOTHING WRONG IN BEING SINGLE, IT'S AN OPPORTUNITY TO DEFINE YOURSELF &  SET YOUR PATH RIGHT!                   

                                        

 "Why did I get married?"

  In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED

 and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship.

There is always another person (man or women) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship that you WANT

And believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship.

But the problem is that you will always be tempted to leave that good 80% that you know you have,

thinking that you will get something better with the other 20% that you WANT

But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the 20% that you WANT

and loosing the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had.

  Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.

            Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have. "Wow, this girl in my office is a real looker. But it's not her Wynona Rider features that got me. I'm crazy about her because she's also understanding, intelligent, tender - so many things that my spouse is not"

Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive. More alluring. More thoughtful.. Richer. Have greater sex appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse ever did.

Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have 80% of what you're looking for.

So adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 20%.

  Let's say your wife is melancholic by nature.
You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says:

"I broke my arm yesterday, Hahahaha . . .."

Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil,

you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer,

high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt

Or because your husband is the quiet type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame

 who has the makings of a talk show host.

But wait! That's only 20% of what you don't have.

Don't throw away the 80% that you already have!

That's not all. Add to your spouse's 80% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other.

The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple.

The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you've accumulated as lovers.

Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have.

But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already have.

But I'm not just talking about marriage.

I'm talking about life!
About your jobs.
About your friends.
About your children.
About your lifestyles.

Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he's missing? "They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they've got personal videos!"

I guarantee you'll be miserable for the entire trip! Don't live your life like that. Forget about what the world says is first class. Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable in first class –

because they are not riding in a private Lear Jet?

The main message???

If you start appreciating what you have right now,

wherever you are, you are first class!

 

  20/80 or 80/20.  You determine your lot in life.

                                     Enjoy what you have because you’re blessed.

 

ACTRESS MONALISAS UNCLE REPLIES ESTRANGED HUBBY''you beat her so much she ran for her dear life''


Written by Stella Dimoko Korkus for Encomium magazine





My connection with MONALISA CHINDA’S marriage- by Mr Kool.



The Many Sins and Lies of MR SEGUN DEJO-RICHARDS – Pls verify.



I am in possession of sms and media publications with false and malicious allegations made by Mr Segun Dejo-Richards against me to the media; accusing me of master-minding his marriage break down. All intended to drag my name (Mr Kool) into his crisis with my niece (Monalisa Chinda).



What I will say in this statement, will be read by my Family, friends, Fans, Colleagues, Monalisa’s mother, Monalisa herself, and even Segun Dejo-Richards; so it will be the Truth and it will be consistent.

First, please let me state clearly that – I AM NOT SPEAKING FOR MONALISA CHINDA, but to clear my name (MR KOOL) of all the blatant LIES Mr Dejo-Richards has told the media and the world. When and if Monalisa decides to speak, she will tell her inside story. I urge the media to verify my every statement.



This would be the first time in my career that I am forced to exchange words with anyone through the media, (whether artiste, marketer, management, promoter or anyone else). Also, on saturday, 5th Sept 2009, I sent an sms to Mr Dejo Richards advising him to stop lying to the Press. I also forwarded it to his Lawyer. (Ask him).



Before I go on, let me thank Mr Segun Dejo-Richards for NOT accusing my niece (Monalisa) of infidelity; so there is nothing for her to be ashamed of. Am also glad that in all his interviews he described her as a - “a faithful, loyal and loving wife”, he also stated that he has been a “a caring and loving husband”. The big question now is ‘Why would a ‘faithful, loyal and loving wife’ run away from a ‘sweet and loving husband’?


His many Lies


1. Mr Dejo-Richards alleged that I arrested, assaulted and detained him – On what day? At what police station? - No such incident ever took place. Pls verify.



2. He claimed I came with policemen to take his property – on what date? What property did we take? And if we didn’t take anything…what stopped us? I am not illiterate, Festus Keyamo chambers is competent, and already on top of the matter, why would I throw myself in. I have not been to Segun’s house in over a year (since May, 2008) during one of his violence emergencies. Pls verify.



3. He alleged Monalisa has been in my house after leaving their home. While he knew she was staying with a friend on the Island; Segun also knew I had not seen or spoken to Monalisa in 5months (since Easter Sunday -until last Saturday, 29th August 2009). Pls verify.



4. He alleged that I introduced Monalisa to Festus Keyamo? Never. Festus Keyamo had already issued a press release before Monalisa visited to my house on the last Saturday of august (after environmental sanitation), she stayed just 45mins.I knew nothing about her divorce process. Pls verify.



5. He claims that his ‘beloved wife’ was being ill-advised by her family and other Nollywood ladies. When he knows she ran from 5yrs of manipulation, ceaseless battery and physical abuse. Pls verify.



6. Mr Dejo-Richards made sure that, Monalisa ex-communicated her mother, siblings, family, colleagues and friends, so as to achieve his evil manipulation and WIFE BEATING without detection. She was loyal and submissive (or should I say colonized and subdued). So, if anyone ever had the chance to advise her, it will be at those times she helplessly cried out for help, when the Beating was unbearable.



6. He says I didnt approve of his marriage to my niece – Not true, in 2005 he brought 2 bottles of Remy Martin cognac to my house, requesting my approval, I accepted the drinks and then encouraged our family to go on with the marriage process. But I just didnt approve of his evil ways and I told him point blank. Ask him.



7. Segun called me an adviser/instigator- Bloody ingrate, even his own friends will bear me witness, that contrary to his lies, I had on many occasions last year, sought for peace and reconciliation between him an his wife, I went to his house on 3 occasions to dialogue, talked from 8pm-1am but Segun would not listen. . I later invited Segun to my house for peace talk, his friends came, but Segun never showed up for one day. His wife and 3-month-old daughter were in my house for 5 weeks (May -July 2008.) Monalisa was using my car to take her baby to the hospital for inoculations, because at that time also, Segun seized her car. I even spoke to his pastor, to no avail. His friends and pastor may be reading this now and they know the truth. Even though, as a loyal wife Monalisa covered up for her husband when the media started buzzing and went back to him.



8. His only TRUTH: Yes, I’ve called him names like - Manipulator, Schemer , User, Wife beater and now an incurable Liar; ( but I never did it in public or in front of his wife, I always asked Monalisa to leave us when am talking with Segun man to man, I never tried to bring him disrespect).

I knew his game from the first time we met in London. He made Monalisa read funny manipulative books, like ’Total Submission’ ‘How to be a perfect wife, ‘Obeying the Master etc. And when I asked her she told me Segun was a born again christian and was helping her grow spiritually. (Like Segun confirmed in his interview with City People, 14 Sept 2009) Monalisa had to kneel down to give him drinking water- ( a civilized man in London in 2005, haba!!) I saw it happen, I knew something was wrong, she had become robotic. I told him straight up that I didn’t trust him, and we will never be friends if he continued with this evil plan. Yes, London can be lonely, Segun found a perfect victim - Monalisa (the tender-hearted young woman). Yes, I called him names, but the truth today is that, Segun has not fallen short of these names I called him.



My grouse with Segun Dejo Richards are just 2 things – 1.) Stop being rude to my elder sister (Monalisa’s mum). 2.) Monalisa is your wife, you can manipulate her all you want, but STOP BEATING her.



But before I go on to further tell my side of the story. Please can Mr Segun Dejo-Richards (Monalisa’s husband) tell the media and the world the following?



1. Why would Monalisa Chinda, whom he refered to as a ‘faithful, loyal and loving wife’ run away from a ‘sweet and loving husband’?



2. Why would Monalisa leave her home for over a month without taking any personal item as a woman?….maybe she ran for safety and her clothes didn’t matter then?



3. Why would Monalisa even need police to go to her matrimonial home to pick up her personal stuff as a lady? …could it be she’s afraid of more violence from Segun?



4. Mr Segun claimed Monalisa came with her uncle and policemen to take her car (after 5 weeks), why did she not take her car when she was leaving? Why would she deliberately trek or hitch a ride when there are 2 posh cars at home?



5. Why would Mr Dejo-Richards who loved his wife, quickly go on to change the papers (ownership) of her said car to himself?….maybe his agenda was driving him reckless. Pls verify.



6. If Monalisa is acting on bad advice, Why didn’t she discreetly plan and wait till her husband goes out and she takes all her things and leave?……Again, maybe it all happened too quickly and all she could take was her life?



7. As a ‘loving husband’ whose ‘loving wife’ ran away for 7weeks without reason, who did Mr Dejo- Richards alert? The police, his mother in-law or me- her usual refuge? Nobody…because Segun knew his cup was full. All this media hoopla is just blackmail and cover up.



8. How come after 6weeks, none of Segun’s family members has asked about their dear wife- Lisa? The crisis making headlines… Have they not heard?….But they are not to blame, maybe, as a Renegade, Segun is not answerable to anyone, and would not heed any advice.



9. Why is it that, at the tick of a second, Segun will not fail to tell the press or anyone else how he ‘created the Monalisa brand and nollywood career?…. Could it be he ensured that Monalisa stopped being her own person, the theatre Arts graduate, a beautiful well brought up young woman; the first daughter of a highly civilized royal family, to become a craftily designed money making venture owned by Segun Dejo-Richards.



10. If Mr Kool was the adviser/instigator, why would my darling niece who always ran to me for refuge, ex-communicate me for 5 months, and didn’t even tell anyone in the family (not even her mother),that she had left her marriage for over a month?



11. Why would Monalisa travel to PH, after one month and have her mum call me just last week to tell me what was going on, while we both live here in Lagos?...Maybe because she felt embarrassed to face me, cos I have tried my best and tired of Segun’s arrogance. But in her own words “I didnt tell anyone because I did not want any pity or advice, its my personal decision”



13. Why does Segun refer to Monalisa Chinda as his ‘beloved wife’ yet he constantly

feeds the media with LIES about her?….My answer to this one is simple– Mr Segun Dejo Richards is like ‘An evil rat, wey go dey bite you, dey blow you breeze’



Just For the records: Monalisa Chinda is my niece, her mother is my eldest sister (also the first born). Since I was a child, we’ve been a close family. With all humility, I’d say that we come from a decent civilised background; and we imbibed love, patience, tolerance, respect and value for integrity. We do not interfere in each other’s relationships, but can be protective if need be. And when I settled in Lagos, Monalisa lived with me in the same Festac home from day one of her acting career in Nollywood; and later went to England to do a course in Cosmetology. She had the best childhood you can imagine, love, care and good upbringing, She has never been a money-hungry person. If money was on her mind, Segun will not be an option for marriage. And if money was the disagreement, she will give it all to Segun (maybe she did). Therefore, I will humbly appeal to the media to discard any rumours that the GLO endorsement (Glo money) has affected her negatively. I am sure she will remain a responsible Glo Ambassador, lets not forget that before the endorsement she has also been a successful nollywood actress and gets paid like others. Lisa will give anything for love, and will never leave her marriage for money, even Segun knows this, but I guess Mr Dejo-Richards has beaten out the last drop of love.

Lets not forget, that a woman deeply in love is like mutter and can be moulded into anything; but also like the saying goes “Hell knows no fury like a woman scorned”. And like the lyrics of my song titled (Good Woman), Monalisa Chinda is like “a beautiful picture, trapped in a broken frame”



This matter is not a Mr Kool/Segun/Monalisa issue, the Chinda and Ibeh families are well informed, I am the youngest guy there, am just representing cos I live in Lagos. For now, I will refrain from bringing impeccable material evidence to refresh Segun’s memory, or call names of witnesses ( including his own friends), but I will if Segun makes it necessary, I hope he does not.



To my niece, Lisa, am really sorry, I had to speak to clear my name, You know I didn’t want to get involved in the media mudslinging , but Segun left me no choice.
I rest my case, please be the Judge.

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SOME times in life, when what our heart really desire, doesn't come to us, we hold our selves in bondage, hoping  the hands of the clock  could be turned back for our sakes. SOME times we fall in-love with someone who is not  worth the dust from our shoes, who doesn't value & APPRECIATE us, yet we keep pinning for them.

YOU are 'toasted' &  chased by someone, for a certain  period of time, you weren't ready for a relationship yet, but for the hot chase..............!  eventually, you give in, hoping it works, then without knowing how, you lose your balance, falling helplessly & speechlessly in love with him. you couldn't bear to leave his presence, his every word becomes your command.

ALL along, both of you were following the same pattern, improving & building  your selves positively. you both got your degrees, even your masters & you are both still aiming high. Suddenly, he gets a massive job, he's sent abroad to brush & polish his skills, for the greater challenge. you are distraught, he gives his word, he'd never leave you.

MANY months later, he's back with a different story.  YOU ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR HIM! no explanations, no apologies. you run helter skelter, you call his friends, his relations, NO SHOW! you plead, cry, starve, he's made up his mind, he's moving on without you, you are bad luck he tells his family & they refuse to  interfere.

few years later, you are still hoping  he'd come back, you refuse to open up to genuine advances. you still remain in the past.

MY dear!  IT IS TIME TO  LET GO. he's not coming back!  the time to let it flow is now,  he's not good enough for you, he's not worth those tears, you've shed for his sake, any man who could treat you that way, is  not worth the dust from your shoes. release your self, you are too much to be wasted, open up your heart to love again, it was better it happened at the time it did.

YOU ARE SPECIAL & DESERVE THE BEST, GOD WILL BRING YOUR WAY, A LOVE THAT WILL SHINE THROUGH YOU FOREVER.  

most times we don't appreciate our selves,  we don't like the way we look, the way we walk,the way we talk & the way we laugh & how we relate to people. most times we underrate our selves, we don't see any thing good in ourselves, we allow some bad people into our lives to mess us up. i had been a victim of that too, a victim of  self-victimization. i kind  of disliked myself sort of, for no just cause. i was always comparing myself to people, seeing nothing good in whatever i did. mocking myself & telling me that i could not achieve any set goals, allowing people to trample on me, abuse me & violate me, all bcos i didn't have confidence in my self, in my ability, in my God given beauty & in my everything.

that's why i want to use this medium to say a big sorry to MYSELF  for all the hurt i've caused her by degrading her, letting her down, allowing people to debase her & talk to her any how they liked, MY LOVE! MY BODY!! AM SO SORRY!!. i would say it was ignorance that made me do all that to ME. i'll cherish YOU for the rest of my days. i'll make up for every tear i caused YOU, I'LL PAMPER YOU, ADORE YOU, FIGHT FOR YOU.

 AND FOR THE REST OF MY DAYS, AM GOING TO LOVE YOU.
I LOVE YOU TO SMITHERINGS!!!