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Thot you might like this one its got lessons for everyone.
Just something to meditate on for those that are married, those
thinking about it and those new in it.(Pls be serious about it & take your time to digest d content)

Enjoy

Cheers.

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said,
"How
do I know if I married the right person?"
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It
depends. Is that your husband?" In all seriousness, she answered
"How do you know?"

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's
weighing
on your mind.

Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fall in love with
your spouse. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like
their
idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse/partner wasn't hard. In fact, it was a
completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO
anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... Because it's
happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the
imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing
there;
doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But
after a few years of marriage/courtship, the euphoria of love fades.
It's
the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls
become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when
it
happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive
you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you
think
about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the
initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry
subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse/partner might start asking, "Did I
marry the right person? or am I dating the right person?" And as you and
your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may
begin
to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages/
relationships breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness
and look outside their marriage/relationship for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is
the
most obvious (mostly men). But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a
friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your
marriage/relationship, It lies within it. I'm not saying that you
couldn't
fall in love with someone else, You could, & TEMPORARILY you'd feel
better.
But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen
carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE/RELATIONSH IP IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT
PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER
just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it
day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labour of
love."
Because it takes time, effort, and energy . And most importantly, it
takes
WISDOM & SINCERITY. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage/relationship
work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery.. There are specific
things
you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your
marriage/relationship.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there
are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise
program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your
relationship
WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you
know and apply the laws, the results are predictable...you can "make"
love.
Love in marriage/relationship is indeed a "decision".... Not just a
feeling.

Remember this always

"God determines who walks into our life; it is up to us to decide who we
let walk away,
who we let stay, and who we refuse to let go."

Have a nice Day.