Jun
4th
KEEPING THE LOVE TANK FULL
By toniasexy
Love is
the most important word in the English language- and the most
confusing. Both secular and religious thinkers agree that love
plays a central role in one's life. We are told that "Love is a
many-splendored thing" and that "love makes the world go round. "
Thousands of books, songs, magazines, and movies are peppered with
the word,love. Numerous philosophical and theological systems have
made a prominent place for love.
Psycologists have concluded that the need to feel loved is a primary human emotional need. For love, we will climb mountains, cross seas, traverse desert sands, and endure untold hardship. Without love, mountains become unclimbable, seas uncrossable, and hardship our plight in life.
If we can agree that the word love permeates human society, both historically and in the present, we must also agree that it is a most confusing word. We use it in a thousand ways. We say," I love hot dogs, " and in the next breath, " I love my mother." We speak of loving activities: swimming, skiling, e.t.c.
The emotional need for love, however, is not simply a childhood phenomenon. That need follows us into adulthood and into marriage. The "in love" experience temporarily meets that need, but it is inevitably a "quick fix" and predictable life span.
The need to feel loved by one's spouse is at the heart of marital desires. A man once said to me, "what good is the house, the cars, the place at the beach, or any of the rest of it if your wife dosen't love you? What he is really saying is that, " more than anything, i want to be loved by my wife." Material things are no replacement for human, emotional love. Something in our nature cries out to be loved by another. Isolation is devastating to the human psyche. That is why solitary confinement is considered the cruelest of punishement.
Keeping the emotional love tank full is as important to us, as maintaining the proper oil level is to an automobile. Running your relationship on an empty tank" may cost you even more than trying to drive your car without oil.so learn to keep your love tank full and not empty.
toniasexy
Psycologists have concluded that the need to feel loved is a primary human emotional need. For love, we will climb mountains, cross seas, traverse desert sands, and endure untold hardship. Without love, mountains become unclimbable, seas uncrossable, and hardship our plight in life.
If we can agree that the word love permeates human society, both historically and in the present, we must also agree that it is a most confusing word. We use it in a thousand ways. We say," I love hot dogs, " and in the next breath, " I love my mother." We speak of loving activities: swimming, skiling, e.t.c.
The emotional need for love, however, is not simply a childhood phenomenon. That need follows us into adulthood and into marriage. The "in love" experience temporarily meets that need, but it is inevitably a "quick fix" and predictable life span.
The need to feel loved by one's spouse is at the heart of marital desires. A man once said to me, "what good is the house, the cars, the place at the beach, or any of the rest of it if your wife dosen't love you? What he is really saying is that, " more than anything, i want to be loved by my wife." Material things are no replacement for human, emotional love. Something in our nature cries out to be loved by another. Isolation is devastating to the human psyche. That is why solitary confinement is considered the cruelest of punishement.
Keeping the emotional love tank full is as important to us, as maintaining the proper oil level is to an automobile. Running your relationship on an empty tank" may cost you even more than trying to drive your car without oil.so learn to keep your love tank full and not empty.
toniasexy
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