Sep
17th
SINGLE & SIGNIFICANT
By chayoma
I watched a programme on LTV channel, a local
television station in lagos state, nigeria. the programme has
the above title as the topic in discussion. it was about the
tribulations, some singles face, especially here in nigeria. most
singles in this continent are seen as irresponsible, not fit
to be looked upto or emulated.
most singles are affected by the norms & set rules of the society, that they refuse to build themselves up positively. they measure their own lives by the standards set by the society & in doing this, they deny themselves of the basic tools for growth,productivity & self- reliance, which nature has put in place to be used by all human, for the betterment of mankind. some allow their dreams & aspirations to die prematurely just because they want to do what the society wants. they live in the abstract.
most singles especially the ladies believe that they can only maximise their potentials ONLY when they get married. they attribute their success in life to the person they will eventually marry, some withhold their happiness till they are married, hoping to get their dose of happiness from the person they marry. they keep some of the luxuries they could afford & enjoy at the moment till they get married, denying themselves of some beautiful moments, just because they are single & because the society has said it is bad, then they swallow it & will be drying up & dying in silence.
let me tell you all singles, your happiness does not depend on another individual. if you are not happy with your self, no body can make you happy. there is nothing wrong with you setting your goals in life as a single person. you can achieve whatever you want to achieve without a man/woman. marriage is not the bed rock of success, it is not a yard stick to measure one's successes with, agreed that some individual achieved some level of success by the type of people they married, they had worked on themselves & were open minded, initialising every positive ventures, that came their way & when the opportunity presented itself, they grapped it & used it to climp the ladder of greater success. they didn't just sit at home bemoaning their fate, they went out into the world, to fight themselves out.
wake up singles, don't slumber! you can achieve whatever you want to achieve, just get up, dust yourselves & step out in to the world, there are some many things you can do to improve your selves, you don't have to wait for any body to get your groove back, don't wallow in self-pity, it is a killer of potentials, put on a sunny smile, go out, meet people, socialise, get connected, you'll make it big time if you believe in your self.
you are not too old to start making plans for your life, no time is late, your morning comes when you wake up. so if you are just waking up now, it's not late to start now. just sit up & make the most of your life. make your life worthwhile, while you still have breathe in you.
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG IN BEING SINGLE, IT'S AN OPPORTUNITY TO DEFINE YOURSELF & SET YOUR PATH RIGHT!
most singles are affected by the norms & set rules of the society, that they refuse to build themselves up positively. they measure their own lives by the standards set by the society & in doing this, they deny themselves of the basic tools for growth,productivity & self- reliance, which nature has put in place to be used by all human, for the betterment of mankind. some allow their dreams & aspirations to die prematurely just because they want to do what the society wants. they live in the abstract.
most singles especially the ladies believe that they can only maximise their potentials ONLY when they get married. they attribute their success in life to the person they will eventually marry, some withhold their happiness till they are married, hoping to get their dose of happiness from the person they marry. they keep some of the luxuries they could afford & enjoy at the moment till they get married, denying themselves of some beautiful moments, just because they are single & because the society has said it is bad, then they swallow it & will be drying up & dying in silence.
let me tell you all singles, your happiness does not depend on another individual. if you are not happy with your self, no body can make you happy. there is nothing wrong with you setting your goals in life as a single person. you can achieve whatever you want to achieve without a man/woman. marriage is not the bed rock of success, it is not a yard stick to measure one's successes with, agreed that some individual achieved some level of success by the type of people they married, they had worked on themselves & were open minded, initialising every positive ventures, that came their way & when the opportunity presented itself, they grapped it & used it to climp the ladder of greater success. they didn't just sit at home bemoaning their fate, they went out into the world, to fight themselves out.
wake up singles, don't slumber! you can achieve whatever you want to achieve, just get up, dust yourselves & step out in to the world, there are some many things you can do to improve your selves, you don't have to wait for any body to get your groove back, don't wallow in self-pity, it is a killer of potentials, put on a sunny smile, go out, meet people, socialise, get connected, you'll make it big time if you believe in your self.
you are not too old to start making plans for your life, no time is late, your morning comes when you wake up. so if you are just waking up now, it's not late to start now. just sit up & make the most of your life. make your life worthwhile, while you still have breathe in you.
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG IN BEING SINGLE, IT'S AN OPPORTUNITY TO DEFINE YOURSELF & SET YOUR PATH RIGHT!
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